To all my friends,
Here’s what I do know: there are a few things that I’m good at, and a few things that I’m not good at. Unfortunately, death falls into the latter category. A lot of you have been asking where I’ve been. Well, some things just take me a minute.
Reedenstein, myself & C-Bizzle.!!!!
I met a guy about fifteen years ago that I still consider a friend. His name is Chris Brinker, and he died this past Saturday. If I could boil down the existence of “The Boondock Saints” to one name, it would be Chris Brinker. He was the driving force behind getting both films made. I think a successful life is about putting things back into the stream of history, and not just extracting things. I know that Chris had a successful life, and that the list of people that love and will miss him is one of the longest in Hollywood.
You know, the current era of thought is that man cannot be mortal and eternal at the same time… but it was also previously believed through science that light could not be both a wave and a particle at the same time.
He’s gone, he’ll leave a hole… and I’ll miss him.
… Anyway, I knew there was an elephant in the room, and I just thought it necessary to ask it to leave.
PS
One of life’s unfortunate “absolutes”, is that it is fleeting. However, every single decision that we make on a daily basis will either increase it’s pace… or slow it down. I urge every single one of us to treat this life as if it’s the golden ticket that it actually is. We have only one… so let’s hold on with all our might.
My deepest condolences to you Sean and to everyone who loved Chris.
Mireille
really nice post. sorry for your loss. may he rest in peace. thoughts and prayers with his friends and family.
Heart felt words Sean.
May you see God’s light on the path ahead when the road you walk is dark.
May you always hear, even in your hour of sorrow, the gentle singing of the lark.
When times are hard may hardness never turn your hardness to stone.
May you always remember when the shadows fall – You do not walk alone.
Wish love and best wishes. xoxo
Sorry for your loss, it truly sucks to lose a friend.
Hi Sean,
I am sincerely sorry for you loss.
Sending you hugs.
XXXX
Jen
RIP. CB
Sean,
It is clear you are hurting from the loss of a dear friend and I am so sorry. He obviously made a wonderful impact on you life and I know you will always remember him for that.
While also showing great respect to your friend, you have also shared a wonderful tidbit of wizdom with us. Thank you.
Keep shining sir you are a bright ray for all of us.
Chelsea Staab
I am sorry you lost a friend. I know it’s hard to lose someone so close to you. I feel an emptiness in my life, my father died over ten years ago, and it still feels like it was yesterday. I try to honor him by not taking anything for granted and being kind to others. That’s the best tribute that I can think of and I hope anyone who has lost a loved one can find comfort from your words. Thank you.
Sean, so sorry for your loss. I am not good at this sort of thing, but, please know that his family and friends are in my prayers. Life is fleeting. Thank you for always trying to help me be a better me in this life.
Love, Rae
@raehowell
The passing of someone I care about is not something I usually speak of I’m not good and feeling that weak and lonely. I lost someone very close to me who I will always hold near my heart and I hope you can find the peace that it seems is difficult for you to find as well it took me a long time but I carry him with me everyday I know you will do the same for your friend because you love with your heart and hold loved ones close xx
So sad to hear. My condolences to his family & friends.
That was beautiful.
It is difficult when we lose someone so close to us. Someone who was family in our hearts. Someone who makes a difference. . and to shamlessly quote ‘Boondock Saints’, “. . it’s the doers that change this world. And when they do that, they change us, and that’s why we never forget them. . ”
My condolences on your loss.
xxxx
So sorry for your loss, I know it sucks but remember the good times and it will get better.
Sean, I know how hard it is to deal with death, I’ve had to deal with 3 in the past 15 months. It’s not easy, sometimes some are harder to deal with even. My mom’s mom pasted away first and well she was 92 and had Dementia. So we already knew (5 yrs before) that they didn’t think she’d last that long. Well she did, and we are grateful for the years. My dad’s dad pasted away and well it was completely unexpected. He had knee surgery and had issues after and he kept having blood clots. He left us in March ’12 and it took me a little bit to come to terms with his death. But I did, because I knew my grandmother had. The last one was my step uncle who i was close to because he was my age… 35 and he had congenital heart defect and no one knew. He left us blind sided, alot of his family is still having a hard time! So yes, death is something sometimes people have to deal with in different ways. I for one don’t blame you for taking that time away from the social media or any other things. You needed your time to mourn your friend and that’s what you are doing. Blessings to you and to all the people that Chris touched in his life. He’s now looking down and watching everyone like a big movie in the sky. Much Luv. Christina
I doubt any of us handle death well. The news was terrible. Chris Brinker undoubtedly delivered a lot to everyone, including the fans. Take all the time you need. We’re all thinking of you!
“Only a hug can say what’s necessary” S.P.F
lots of hugs for you. and much love!x
There’s nothing to say that really makes people feel better when they’ve just lost someone. I know because I’ve lost several, but despite what you have been feeling, you will make it through, and you’ll feel better. Always remember the good times and stay strong <3
Sean,
I know the feeling to well. Last August I laid my 25ur old cousin to rest. Thursday I will be there as we lay to rest my 32 yr old cousin after losing his battle with cancer. Tonight an uncle was admitted to the hospital with kidney failure. To say the year has been rough is an understatement. Too many gone too soon makes the soul weary. I just hope that everyone lives life and doesn’t do it being negative. It’s too short to squander! Blessings to you in your time of loss.
Not a lot to say to that, other than I’m sorry for your loss. It’s never easy and for those it affects, it always causes us to take an uncomfortable look at our own mortality.
God bless, Sean.
I’m sorry to hear about your friend. Aneurysms are horrible, and scary. I had a scare with a cerebral aneurysm years ago and it always gets me when I hear about people losing friends and loved ones to one.
I am so sorry for the of loss of your beloved friend. Praying for you, sir. God bless you, Sean.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope that by posting this blog, that it helps a little. I would love to hear more about him, if you feel up to posting more about him. 🙂
For memory is the only friend. That grief can call its own. To live in the hearts of those
We leave behind is not to die.
All I can say is that I’m sorry you lost a friend. I hope, in life, you find many more than you lose.
I am so sorry for your lose.
I am sorry for your loss. This is the tough stuff ~ there is no magic bullet to heal our hearts. I will keep you in my prayers and encourage you to hug Donut close and accept kindness of those who love you.
M
I’m so sorry for your personal loss and the loss of such a talent. I’ve been dealing with the loss of one of my film industry friends this weekend, as well. It makes it that much more difficult wondering what he would have accomplished. Life is short and I’m hugging everyone a little tighter this week. I imagine you are, too.
~ Christine
Sean,
My heart goes out to you. I’m not really all that good at dealing with death either, especially after 2011. In a matter of 2 months, I lost 3 people who were close to me. One was to suicide and the other 2 were of old age. I barely had any time to emotionally heal and it hit me really hard. The suicide was a dear, close friend of mine who always supported me even when I didn’t have the confidence to push myself to the extreme. Another was my grandmother and although I know that she’s in a better place with my grandfather, I grew up only a block away from them so she was always there for me.
Thanks to my Asperger’s, I am a hyper-emotional being and the hardest thing for me to do is get out of an emotional funk. I wish I were closer because I’m always there for people when I can be and I try to just listen.
I’m so sorry for your loss and my heart is with all who loved him. I get accused of being a hippie now and then because I have a habit of reminding the people I care about that I love them…often. I’ve lost too many people and I know one day it will be my turn to go and I don’t want any of them to wonder how I felt. To wonder if I loved them. My friends have been family to me where I have none. Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed to any of us, so you’re completely correct in urging us to cherish our golden ticket.
I know that losing a dear friend is always hard to bare. My thoughts, prayers and love go out to you, Chris’ family, and all the friends and fans that have been touched by Chris.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Sorry to hear of the loss of your friend Sean, Life unfortunately must also have death as a part of our existance. The older you become, the more you seem to experience it. Keep up your excellent efforts and stay strong. I’m impressed by all you do.
Sean, I’m so sorry for your loss & hope that the time that the memories of Chris will become easier to smile & remembrance of great times instead of hurting because of his passing. I know that he left his mark in life, that is what we all hope to do: to leave a legacy. I can tell you now, you have left such a big mark in this old world, by not only being a fantastic actor but changing & helping so many lives. I can speak first-hand, because of you, you’re wisdom, your wonderful carrying nature, I have became a better, healthier person, both mentally, emotionally & physically. God bless you, Sean, and God bless and comfort all of Chris’ family and friends at this time of hurt & his loss.
Very sorry for your loss. The people we love most and lose, live in our hearts forever and when you least expect it, you’ll see a sign of Chris and you will smile. Saudades, Helen
Sean,
I am so sorry for your loss. I realized the angels had called him back and i thought to myself…he is so young for Heaven to need him more then we do.
I lost my father about 16 yrs ago. I still do not understand why and i miss him. That event made me realize…we may only have today. Enjoy every moment you can.
Words cannot express my true sorrow of what you are going through.
As a friend, and someone you have helped many times, i need to ask if there is anything i can do for you. Is there any help, comfort or guidance i may give to you as you have to me over the year.
Please remember, we all adore you and are praying for you.
Love Anna
I’m sorry for the loss of your friend *hug*
So sorry to hear about your loss…but I’ll bet the Brinker family feels so much comfort from the love and appreciation you’re spreading about Chris. The fact that he is mourned–and so eloquently–by so many friends shows that he lived his life well. Thank you for sharing.
My condolences Sean, it’s always tough to loose a long time friend. The best thing we can do is remember all the great things that person did and the great times we had with them.
Rest in peace Chris Brinker. My prayers are with his loved ones.
I am sorry to hear about your friend. May you be granted strength during this difficult time
So sorry to hear about the loss of your friend… My condolences and thoughts are with you
Soo sorry for your loss Sean, my thoughts are with you. I know how hard it is to lose someone you care about. it leaves such an empty hole in your heart. It is true that life is very fleeting and you have to remember to live it to the fullest and make every minute count. But to also leave a positive mark on the world. My heart goes out to all of his friends and family.
If there is anything you need, please don’t hesitate to let us know, much love, care, and thought.
-Rae
Condolences to you, Norman, Chris’s family & all his friends at this loss. Nothing & no one can ever replace a person, that has truly left a mark on your life. Memories are the best thing to hold onto. And as we all need time to process & heal from a loss, I can say, take all the time you need.
Sean,
My most heartfelt condolences on the tragic loss of your dear friend. God bless.
Requiescat in Pace Chris Brinker. I’m sorry for you loss. An aneurysm is a swift sword that cuts a wide path, but I am sure all say the same no matter how your loved one passes. My hometown/go to college with boyfriend died from a cerebral anuerysm junior year. It sucks!!!! Will have a Mass said for Chris and his family.
I’m so sorry and I know nothing we can say will make the pain go away but it always helps me to know that’s it’s just their body that’s gone, I truly believe their spirits are still with us and always will be. Sending lots of love and hugs from The Sibley.
May the road rise to meet you. May the wind be always at your back.May the sun shine warm upon your face.May the rains fall soft upon your fields and until we meet again, May the Lord hold you in the palm of His hand.
God Bless You Sean and thank you for sharing your feelings
Dear Sean,
To find the right words for someone who lost a good friend in a young age is always difficult and not easy. We try not to say the typical words, we also try not to say the wrong words. We try to understand what happened, but it´s not possible, Because we feel numb and helpless. So what to do? What to say? So I decided to say this few words: Chris? I know you can hear me above. And I know how much you miss your friends here, Because they do the same. Please, always watch over Sean and Norman and all the wonderful people who were around you before you had to go. Always take care for them! They still need you! Now you are their Angel!
And to you Sean, Chris will never leave the place in your heart! He will stay there, forever…..
I send you hugs and love,
Lydia -Leader of the I.B.D.S.A.-
So sorry for your loss Sean. life is fleeting. and that is the reason why life is beautiful. I think.
Thanks for sharing this post. Your words always touch my heart in many ways.
I’m so sorry Sean, a loss always is a hard thing to go through. My prayers and blessings for you and yours. We’re all here for you. Rest in peace Chris Brinker.
My thoughts and prayers are with the wonderful cast and amazing crew of both films and his family. May he never be forgot and also remembered in your guy’s fondest memories.
The elephant may have left the room, but he’s just gone to another. I’m sorry for your loss and moved by your blog. I hope you can find solace with the love and support of your friends and loved ones. God bless and hugs.
http://www.wowzone.com/death.htm
Link is to such a beautiful poem and so true – there’s so much comfort in the knowledge that it’s not over… We all have to deal with the death’s of family and/or loved ones, just a fact of life but to many people a really harsh one. People don’t want to think about their own death, in a way all religions evolve around that fear of death and the comfort of a life beyond with some Upper Being. If religious people truly believed that why would there be the need to mourn anyway? But out of our lives and sight – the people that died are lost to us – just gone ‘until we meet again’ they hope….
The atheist is no better off, believing that all hope is lost – you die & it’s over and done with.
How you handle the death of loved ones, how you mourn and how painful it is to deal with such loss has everything to do with your idea of death. I react two years after this post but sadly there will be many more losses throughout your life forcing you to look at your own perception of death. Wishing you all the strength to do so…..
Thank you. Still.
I am so very sorry for your loss Sean!
It’s so easy now a days to take for granted the good people we know and love and to wish life away. Thinking of you often.
XOXO – Amy
So sorry for your loss Sean. My sons lost their grandfather this fall and it is so hard to navigate these feelings of grief and remembrance whether you are four or thirty four. We are blessed to have been part of their lives and to have had them in ours. You are in my thoughts and prayers Sean.
I was so sad to hear about Chris Brinker’s death. He definitely left his mark and will live forever.
My thoughts and prayers goes out to his immediate and BDS family.
i am sorry for ur loss of a friend. my prayers are with Mr Flanery!
Hi sean. My prayers goes to you and his love ones. I know how it feels. I lost my lovely grandma last year in May. We have to appreciate our love ones because life is short. Take care & god bless! JoMarie
The deepest condolences to you Sean and to everyone who knew & loved Chris!!!
Love, Jessica
PS: I’ll take your PS to heart!!! You are so right!!!
It’s never easy losing someone you love. So sorry to hear about it. Keep the good memories in your heart and his presence will never leave your life. My thoughts are with you and everyone who loved him. Take care.
I was really sad to hear about this today. I’m so sorry for your loss, Sean!
I’m a caregiver, and it includes hospice care. I see so many gradual declines, and it’s incredibly sad. When people pass on suddenly, though, it REALLY hits me in the gut. I can’t even describe that feeling…when you’re suddenly aware of an empty space.
Last summer, I was with a lady for the last 12 hours of her life. As I was listening to her final breaths, I found a poem next to her bed. I thought it was so beautiful, and now I think about it every time someone passes on, or when I watch people say goodbye.
Gone From My Sight
I am standing upon the seashore. A ship, at my side,
spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and starts
for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck
of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.
Then, someone at my side says, “There, she is gone”
Gone where?
Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast,
hull and spar as she was when she left my side.
And, she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.
Her diminished size is in me — not in her.
And, just at the moment when someone says, “There, she is gone,”
there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices
ready to take up the glad shout, “Here she comes!”
And that is dying.
–Henry Van Dyke–
Sean, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. I don’t do well with death myself. I never know what to say and I sometimes have a hard time showing my emotions. I find myself needing to be alone. It Is especially hard when the person is young . You have my deepest sympathy. May God bless you.
Lisa @lasergirl70
Sean, So sorry for your loss of a dear friend. Just know we all are here for you as you have been here for us. Take all the time you need. Love and hugs.
I am so sorry for the loss of your friend so suddenly, it must be agony for you and all those that loved him. Life is golden and precious and fleeting. Death is horrible and hard. Take as much time and absence as you need, we will always be here. May CB Rest in Peace and shine until infinity x
Oh no, I am so sorry for your loss. 🙁 Stay strong.
We pray for Mr. Brinker.
There are no words to ease this kind of pain, maybe the thought that God had bigger plan for Chris. The hole he left in your heart can be fill only by him with the life he lived, the time you two spent together, the beautiful memories you two have together and the great things he left behind. Have your heart full of him! This is how I deal the loss of my friends, I fill my heart with everything we lived together. This way I miss only their presence, not their spirit. I see and feel them in things I do (that we use to do together), places I go (that we use to go together) and that brings a smile on my face instead of sadness; and all I can think is “God! I’m happy he/she lived! And I’m lucky and thankful I’ve met him/her! Hope to meet again, my friend.” It helps to go on and live the best I can.
Rest in peace Chris and thanks for enriching our lives with yours!
Sean, I’m sorry for your loss.
My condolences to you and the family. I’ll be keeping all of you in my thoughts.
I’m sending love, hugs, and prayers to you this morning, Sean.
Diane @LynnWatson13
Sean, I am very sorry for your loss. Words cannot truly describe the sadness I feel in my heart for all of you, you lost a great man and a great friend. Dealth is not an easy thing to deal with, losing my Mother 3 years ago, I still fight with the grief daily. Death is one of those unavoidable facts of life that we all will have to deal with and come to terms with one day.
Stay strong, I know you will, you are a wonderful person, and we will be thinking of you here in Colorado.
@Lynsonya69
There isn’t much to say that hasn’t already been said, so here is to Chris and to all those that loved and cared for him. This includes you Sean.Time does not heal all wounds, but it does ease the pain.
I was stunned when I heard about this. Sending love and prayers to all that are in mourning. And I am so sorry that you are hurting. The contributions he has made will not soon be forgotten.
I am sorry for your loss, love and blessings, may you have enough…[email protected]
My thoughts and prayers go with your friend Chris and his family. And with you also. I have never lost a close friend and do not know the pain you are feeling, but I truly hope that you find comfort.
So sad to hear this. Prayers for strength and comfort, I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Hi Sean, I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m sure that he was an amazing man and lived a wonderful life. R.I.P. Chris Brinker.
I am so sorry Sean. Trying to cope with a death is never easy. I hope that you are brought comfort by remembering the good times you shared with your friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you and his other loved ones as well.
I have been there myself and understand. I lost my first husband (the father of my two sons) suddenly back in 2003. The unanswered question of why someone is taken in the prime of their life is hard to live with but I can promise you that it gets easier, it just takes time.
Take care of yourself.
Love, Tangi
My deepest condolences to you Sean and to everyone who knew Chris. A loss of a friend is never easy but with time it will get better. Hang in there & take care.
I’m sorry for your loss, Brother. Hugs, prayers, and positive thoughts your way and to Chris’s family.
Death is never easy, saying goodbye to those we love is the hardest part of life, I believe it to be anyway. He will live on in everyone who believed in him and loved him to the upmost. God Bless and may the wind always be upon him back, and the sun upon his face and may the winds of destiny carry him away to dance with the stars.
So sorry to hear about your loss 🙁 Deepest condolences to Chris’ family and friends.
I’m very sorry, Sean. Wishing you, his family and friends all the best. *hugs*
Such sad news! My condolences Sean! Love you xoxo
You are right in every single word, Sean. Even the next 60 seconds are not guaranteed and we must spend each second as happy and loving as we can be. My deepest condolences and God bless you and all of his loved ones.
Sean, take all the time you need to mourn your loss, remember the good times, and heal. We will be here when you get back, doing our best to kick life in the balls just as you do. With love and light, may he find his way into the loving arms of those who passed before awaiting this reunion.
Love and light to you, Sean.
I’m sorry for your loss. I just found out that a friend of mine took his own life yesterday and your words touched me. Made me realize that even though he’s gone I still have my memories to look back on. I need to learn to cherish the people I still have with me! Thanks for being such a caring person.
My heart goes out to you and his other friends and family. 🙁 *hugs*
Im so sorry for your loss Sean! My heart goes to you and his friends! Take your time man! Remember the lovely,beautiful and good things of him and the time you spent together! and keep them in your heart! So you can always look back with a good memory! because Chris will always be with you! *hugs*
My sincerest and deepest condolences to you and his family. I’ve felt that something has happened. Thank you for sharing this with us. I know it must have been difficult. Chris Brinker will definitely be remembered. He sounds like a wonderful person and I wish I got the chance to meet him. You are a strong and compassionate man. I wish you the absolute best during this hard time. We are all here for you and we always will. I will treasure every microsecond of life and shine. My heart goes out to you.
With Extreme Love and An Everlasting Hug from me in Texas,
Elysia
Dear Sean: I was really sad when i heard this, i’m deeply sorry for the loss of your friend, it’s always difficult to say goodbye to someone we care about, but i truly believe that somehow they are still with us, in all the great moments shared together. Take all the time you need to heal, we’ll be here. Love and hugs
My thoughts & Prayers sent for his family & friends:( May they remember him at his fullest & find peace knowing that he is in a better place watching down on all those who love him dearly
I am so sorry for your loss Sean, My heart and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
May peace and comfort come upon you and all who knew him.
Ahh Mr. Flanery, I am so sorry for your loss.
I believe that sometimes, as difficult as death is for everyone, those who live their lives passionately, as you do, are often hit the hardest by the loss of a life, especially when it is unexpected.
For those who live every day with excitement and curiosity, life is a brand new adventure just waiting to happen. When death jumps in and takes away someone we love, we are brutally forced to face the fact that our physical lives are limited. We are breakable, and as much as we reach out and hold tightly to the things in life that bring us joy and happiness, that push boundaries and make our hearts pound with excitement, there will come a time when the spark that makes us who we are will go out. That, is the circle of life. Biology at it’s finest, or if you prefer the grand plan of the Powers that Be. And we all hate it.
However, knowing that does not mean life should be without passion and drive. As you said Sean, if anything it should encourage us to find our happiness and strive to be a better whoever we are; to make the most of the years we are given and not take anything for granted. We have been given these bodies as a gift. We have been given our friends and family, those we love as part of that gift and owe it to ourselves and those we love, to live, to move, to dance, to sing, to laugh, cry, make mistakes, love passionately, have our hearts broken, start over and never stop living.
The people who matter to us are treasures and when they are gone, for a while as we grieve, we lose our shine. Some are ashamed by their tears, but they are cleansing and open the door for laughter and tender memories.
Know that the thoughts and prayers of many are with you and the countless others who are feeling the loss of this obviously special man who touched so many lives.
{{hugs}} Fay T
May your friends spirit live on through those who love him.
Heard about him passing, very sad news. So sorry to hear about the loss of your friend, but I’m sure his presence will still be around you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and his loved ones. Take care.
I commented earlier but had to again as I just re-read your “Do you want to live forever” blog. Seemed appropriate. Mr. Brinker certainly left his mark on this world and will live forever through all he accomplished both professionally and personally. <3 <3 Hugs to you my friend. @TangiNorris
I’m sorry to hear of your loss but it is also a loss to us all. God bless.
YOU ARE RIGHT! LIFE IS SO SHORT. SORRY TO HEAR OF THE LOSS OF YOUR FRIEND.
BEST,
TAMMY
I’m so sorry for your loss Sean. I know what it’s like to lose someone close. iI lost 2 cousins who were more like sisters. It leaves an emptiness in your heart that cant never be filled because there is no one else like that person. it hurts and it hurts bad. it takes time you never get over it you just learn how to live without them. Sean you have many fans who are here for you in your time of need we love you! if you ever need someone to talk to you have all of our emails and phone numbers. I am a good listener get in touch with me anytime I sincerely mean that. God bless you Sean. love you!
I would like to share a poem with you that inspires and strengthens me and I pray it will do the same for you. It’s called “Being a Christian”, by Maya Angelou.
When I say…I am a Christian”, I’m not shouting I’m clean livin’.
I’m whispering I was lost, now I’m found and forgiven.
When I say…I am a Christian”, I don’t speak of this with pride.
I’m professing that I stumble and need Christ to be my guide.
When I say…I am a Christian”, I’m not trying to be strong.
I’m professing I am weak and need HIS strength to carry on.
When I say…I am a Christian”, I’m not bragging of success.
I’m admitting I have failed and need GOD to clean my mess.
When I say…I am a Christian”, I’m not claiming to be perfect.
My flaws are far too visible but GOD believes I’m worth it.
When I say…I am a Christian”, I still feel the sting of pain,
I have my share of heartaches so I call upon HIS name.
When I say…I am a Christian”, I’m not holier than thou,
I’m just a simple sinner, who received GOD’s good grace
Somehow.
I have no doubt that Chris received GOD’s good grace by having you as a friend. You’re a good man Mr. Flanery.
I’m so very sorry for the loss of your friend Sean. Every living soul whether it be human or animal has its place in our lives. There’s a song I came across when I lost my working dog for the deaf (Yes, I know she was an animal and I’m not forgetting the value of humanity here – but still a hard loss none-the-less.) by OPM – Brighter Side. One of the lyrics reads “I wish the world wouldn’t be so cold to take such a beautiful soul.” The lyrics to the entire song are actually quite beautiful.
It’s kind of how I view death. It’s a sad thing that it can touch something we love or even visit in abandon. Music used to soothe my soul when I could hear. Now words are a balm to my heart. I hope in some way my words helped or at the very least, let you know you’re not alone. I don’t do these kinds of things so well myself and tend to disappear into myself when things get rough. I do know there is so much beauty left in the world yet and those who have gone on before us would want us to continue to enjoy it. Stay loved sweet friend. (Hugs) Indigo
I have never dealt with death very well myself. I am truly sorry for the pain you are feeling in loosing a friend. An I hope that you an his family an other friends find comfort in each other at this time.
Sean I know exactly what your feeling. I just buried my sister today and it’s so hard to cope with her being gone. Just know that he is looking down on you. And that I’m sure he is very proud of everything you’ve done.
Hi Connor. I am very sorry for your loss too ! It is hard to lose someone you love that much, especially a sister. I hope that time will heal your wounds and you will be able to think back about her with a big smile on your face. I also hope you find comfort and love with your family and friends. And also know that this blog family cares ….
Love, Veronique
Thank you Veronique. I smile almost everyday thinking about my sister. I have been doing things she loved to do since she passed away. The only way I know how to cope is by watching her favorite movies. Which is basically any movie that has Sean or Norman in it. Thank you for your symapthy. ~Connor M.
I am deeply sorry for your loss. Words can not describe the sadness I’m feeling for you and every one who loves and will miss him.
I’m so sorry Sean. I heard about Chris’ death and was very saddened.
I know how hard it is to lose a friend, so my heart goes out to you and well as to Chris’ other friends and family.
~Sarah
I am so very, very sorry for your loss. I logged on to facebook tonight to post a note about my brother Jim’s death this morning and saw your blog. He had been battling lung cancer for a little over two years and I wanted to ask you to give your mother a big hug for me and a huge pat on the back for kicking cigarettes. Friends help us bear our sorrows and I hope all of these messages of love and support help bring you comfort. You know that we have your back if we can help in any way. My love and prayers go out to you and all of CB’s family & friends. I logged on to share my loss with you so I thought that I’d share the words that Jim’s grandson wrote of him today. “My strong willed, hippie grandfather passed away early this morning after a long battle with cancer. His 3-6 month diagnosis in November of 2011 made a mockery of cancer. His quality of life hardly suffered as he continued to take frequent road trips between Louisville and Florida. His lifestyle ultimately shaped my dream: to do whatever I want, whenever I want. Cheers to you, Pop, on a life well lived.” This described my brother so well that I could never hope to do better. Cheers to Chris on a well lived life as well. He touched the lives of so may people who will keep his memory alive in our hearts. You are in my thoughts and prayers tonight Sean. Now go hug your mother! If she is not around at the moment find some one who can hug you in person for me since I can only hug you with words. Love, hugs & prayers, Marti
My deepest condolences to Chris Brinker’s family and friends.
Sean: Chris was my cousin and I am shocked to find out about his death. He’s gone too soon…with so much promise as yet unfulfilled. You have my deepest condolences.
my deepest condolences to you and everone who knew/loved Chris. All my hugs love and prayers go out to you xx Charlie xxx
Sorry to hear about your friend Mr. Flanery…
;-(
So sorry Sean. That is sad news. My deepest sympathy, love & respect. ~Louann
Hi Sean,
I’m really awkward when it comes to this sort of thing. I’m so sorry that you, his family, and his friends are having to go through this. Stay strong.
I love you and Reedenstein Sean! I wish the best for you, and I really know that Chris is looking down on you and Norman thinking “Damn, these boys may be trouble, but I have made them into gods according to some of their fans!” And thats really what its all about isnt it?
Such beautiful words… I am sorry that you lost your friend. ~ Stefanie
It’s all been said by all of your devoted followers, but this message just brings home the very reason I changed my life and am devoted to being healthy. Your previous entries have been great inspiration and this one is no exception. This is the one life God has given us and so many of us take it for granted. I’m so sorry you and the rest of BDS crew lost a dear friend. I pray, in time, you find comfort for your loss.
Raina B.
“…For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun?
And what is it to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides
that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?
Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.
And when you have reached the mountaintop, then you shall begin to climb.
And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.”
–an excerpt from Kahlil Gibran’s The Prophet
I am deeply sorry for your loss, Sean. I lost my infant son several years ago and never thought I would go through such pain, nor make it through when he died. But I serve an awesome God who comforted me and carried me through. May you find comfort knowing Chris has been temporarily separated from you, and his family and friends till you will surely meet again one day. My thoughts and prayers are with you and those who love and miss him. God bless you. <3
Sean, I am very sorry for the loss of your friend and for such a wonderful person. They say that only the good die young, and it’s true. But I have a theory as to why the good die young. Good people are born with a mission, which is for the good of humanity. Once their mission is complete, they have to leave the world they helped make better, which often means that they leave us at a young age. You see, they’ve done everything they came here to do, which is light up the lives of those who knew them and forever leave an imprint on the hearts of those they inspired. So, they leave us, and they take their beautiful souls to the Otherside so they can talk with other beautiful souls about how they believe they changed the world, and about the loved ones they left behind.
Sean, when you get sad about Chris’s passing, please remember something hilarious he would do. A funny story that makes you grin so big it feels like your face will split with how wide the smile is. And then remember that Chris isn’t in some far away ethereal land. He’s with you, in spirit, giving you the comfort and love of the friend he has been for so long. When you think you feel his presence with you, it’s because his presence IS with you, and he is telling you how much he cares.
We love you Chris. May your beautiful spirit come through to everyone you touched in your life. We love you Sean. Keep being an amazing person.
I miss him so much…he was such a great guy, and an even greater uncle.
I left a comment here after CB died. And then, a cousin of mine died of ovarian cancer and I thought of you and your blog. The thing is most of us didn’t know she had it and she battled with it for ten years. She was a private person, but so amazing, and such a beakon of light. It astounds me that she could shine so bright for so long while battling cancer. The least I can do to honor her memory is try to do same and shine…now and as long as I’m blessed enough to grace this earth. Thank you for also inspiring me to do that.
I experienced a loss today. It wasnt a person but a kitten that I failed to save in time. Ill never know its personality or its quirks, just like Ill never know Chris. Its going to hurt my heart for a while, just like his loss will hurt yours. I remember, almost 5 years ago when my Jarred died, I thought I just might die too. Somehow, each day, in little ways I honor his memory. I miss him unbearably at times but then I remember, he wanted me to be happy. The great thing about people is that once you let them in, they never really go away. Remember and honor him. Never forget the lessons you learned from knowing him.
Sean! I will forever remember C-Bizzle. He was awesome. This is so sad to find out he passed away. My condolences.
-Theresa
As I was looking thru pics online I came across one of you and Troy with Chris and I remembered this post. I really don’t think any of us are good with death, I mean some people move on fairly quickly and others not, everyone handles things differently. I had to deal with death at the young age of 13 when my family lost my brother at the age of 16 in a car accident. It has been so many years ago but still seems like yesterday. It changed my whole world and my families too. EVERYTHING changed but my parents made it thru but seeing what it did to them is still fresh in my mind, and now being a parent myself I honestly do not see how they did it. We do not know what we are capable of until we are faced with a situation that can totally change us but make us stronger at the same time. I still have the memories, pictures etc that will keep his, as well as other family/friends memories alive as I’m sure you do with family and friends you have lost. Yes there will always be a hole in our lives where they were but we were lucky to have had them for the years we did. You are totally right that life is a golden ticket and we need to cherish it everyday.
Your blog is the best, it helps people more than I’m sure you’ll ever know, including myself, God Bless, hope you and your family are well 😉 Much Love….
He may be gone, but never forgotten. For his memories will live on through the Boondock Saints trilogy and other of his works.