686. I’ll never forget that number as long as I live.
The jobs market is rough, and this weak economy has made it ever rougher. In the last year I’ve had a number of blog requests to write something like a “how to get a job blog for the less fortunate”. Well, I’m certainly no expert, but I will humbly give my opinion on a little something that has always worked well for me when I needed it the most.
Let me start by saying that I despise “fortune”. Well, more accurately, I despise what people are pointing at when they THINK they see “fortune”. -Sean Patrick Flanery
There’s a lot of talk recently about exactly that, the “fortunate”, and about the “haves” and the “have-nots”. Well, this much I do know. Every time you see someone that appears to you to be “fortunate”, you can take it to the bank that that “fortune” is either hard-earned… or it will have a lifespan of about another fifteen minutes. If it wasn’t found on the other side of adversity, then it will be worthless and temporary. Be careful what you wish for…
Most people, upon critiquing their life, will acknowledge that their happiness was usually inversely proportionate to the size of their house.
“Under-promise and over-deliver… in everything”.
My dad told me this on a soccer field when I was just a child and it’s been one of the most valuable lessons of my entire existence. Maybe those aren’t the exact words that he used, but that’s how I’ve articulated his message, and I’ve tried to use this message every single day of my life. If you haven’t already, please read the earlier blog entitled “NEWS FLASH: Winners DO quit!!” before reading further. It’s important… I’ll wait.
So, who are these “fortunate” ones that everyone talks about? Are they really the “haves”… or are they the “have-nots”??? I guess it depends on what you want to inherit.
Now I Don’t know if this is everyone’s truth, but it sure is mine…
You can either leave your kids “things”, or you can leave them a work ethic, but you can rarely leave them both. If you leave them “things” without a work ethic, then the “things” will be gone very quickly, but, if you leave them nothing but a work ethic, whatever “things” they want or need will start piling up immediately. An inheritance with no work ethic will soon vanish, but a work ethic can create it’s OWN inheritance… over and over again. The “fortune” it seems is in the upbringing.
Never keep your kids so hungry that they starve… but ALWAYS keep them hungry enough so that they’ll learn how to hunt.
I knew that there was a bigger message from the soccer field that day, but from the narrow perspective of a child, I could only apply it to sports. I decided to never let my dad or my coaches down again… or even myself. I would dig in, and grind, whether I thought it was futile or not. I remember the Coach of the Alief Track Club, Mr. Montgomery, sending us sprinters off on 100 yard legs one day. Well, the 100 yard mark was in-between two cones way down the field and I realized that from the coach’s angle, it looked like the guys ahead of me were easing off just a few feet before the cones. From that day on, I always continued sprinting about 10 to 15 yards past the cones just to make sure the coach didn’t think I was a quitter. I was petrified of seeing that disappointment again. I was petrified of seeing it in myself.
One of the most interesting ironies about courage, I find, is that we usually find it easier to be brave for someone else than we do for ourselves.
My team mates would occasionally ask me why I kept sprinting after the cones, and I always remembered something my Grandaddy used to say:
“You gonna be criticized, cause the losers always gonna out-populate the winners, and the losers never understand the winner’s way”. -Grandaddy
My dad’s soccer field message for me was to try and do this in every sport I ever competed in. To do it in hopes that it would eventually saturate my life. “If a coach tells your team to do 50 reps on your own of something”, he’d say… “then dammit boy, you do 55, just in case the coach is counting YOUR reps and he’s missed a couple”.
I have to admit, later in life I even gave Rickson Gracie a 10% margin of error, just in case he was counting my reps.
I’ve tried to apply my dad’s message to all areas of my life. Sometimes I’ve succeeded, and sometimes I’m come up short. But, I have a complete belief and faith in the message itself, and will wrap it up tightly to leave for someone else someday.
Try it out. Let it spread. Let it become contagious. Maybe, like me, you’ll start off doing the extra work just to avoid someone else’s disappointment. But then going further, it always becomes intoxicating, and you’ll find yourself doing it just to avoid your own disappointment. And FINALLY, once addicted, you’ll KEEP doing it because you see what all the extra work makes you become. It truly changes you. It changes every aspect of your life. It changes your possibilities. It changes your culture…
It makes you become… “fortunate”.
When you find yourself going that extra mile for no one other than yourself, that’s when you welcome “fortune” into your life.
Only the true “necessity” for some ideal will allow people to accelerate away from their glue of fear and failure.
So, how does this relate to the jobs market???? Well, as I’ve said before, character will always out-climb circumstance… so let’s get started with the climb.
Desperate times call for desperate measures, and I’ve been desperate before… so let me share with you some of my “measures”.
First, let’s understand that what people usually mistake for “fortune” has absolutely nothing to do with someone else’s alarm clock going off 15 minutes earlier than their’s their whole life. But… a work ethic does. And, a work ethic is nothing more than a personal decision to work… every single moment that you’re “working”. It is simply doing what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, whether you feel like it or not. This can apply to sports, health, weight loss… and even JOBS. So, what exactly needs to be done? … MORE. You see, the vast majority of people aren’t even doing the REQUIRED amount of work. Don’t believe me? Try going into a store that closes at 8PM at 7:59PM and tell me what you find. Try getting the same service at 7:59PM that you would receive at 12 noon… that is, if the door is even still unlocked!! Try getting a table at a restaurant that advertises being open until midnight at 11:59PM. That, unfortunately, is the majority. And, the very slim MINORITY are only doing the bare minimum. But, only the truly “elite” are returning just a little bit more than what was asked. These are the people that possess “fortune”, and it wouldn’t have fit inside their parents safety deposit box anyway. The “fortunate” didn’t find their fortune in their parent’s will after they died. It was just something that they started receiving, bit by bit, from the day they were born, whether the parents were wealthy, just getting by, or completely impoverished. And THAT check will cash, and it will keep cashing… every single day of their lives. The trick is to leave THAT “check” for our children… and not just the “stuff”.
“In a world full of people, only some want to fly… isn’t that crazy?” -Seal
No wealth can ever exist without it’s cost, just like no happiness can ever exist without it’s woe.
Here’s a little trick to help you get any job, that you have both the desire and ability to adequately perform. On your first interview, look your future employer in the eyes and tell him/her with conviction, the following:
“If given the opportunity, I promise you that I will do these four things every single day while under your employ:
I will show up early,
I will stay late,
I will volunteer for all the hard stuff,
and I will give you $20 of value for every $10 you pay me”.
This will immediately and unequivocally separate you from the pack that is already asking about vacation time. And trust me, the vast majority are already asking about what THEY will receive, and not what they can offer. If you are honest in your delivery, and are truly willing to execute on your promise, then you will not only get the job, but you will RAPIDLY rise through the ranks all the way to the “finger pointed fortunate” very quickly. In the odd case that you aren’t offered the job on the spot, do the following. Take out your checkbook (yes, you need an old-school checkbook for this) and write two checks, one for the amount that you would make in a month if you were to get the job, and one for half that amount. Ask your future employer to name his favorite charity and make the two checks out to that organization and then hand them to him. Tell your employer to hold on to those two checks and to hire you for a month. Then, if he’s not completely blown away by your performance, he can make a charitable donation from your checking account for his entire loss. And even if he decides that you are a wonderful addition to the company and decides to keep you, then he can still deposit the smaller check and you will get by for the initial month on 1/2 your normal salary. Tell him/her that that’s how much you believe in yourself… that you’re willing to potentially work for free just to display your worth. I don’t know an employer that would deny a qualified employee that approached them with that offer.
And yes, it was designed by someone desperate. And it was even field tested… out of “necessity”. So, about that 686. … Six hundred and eighty six was the sum total number of dollars I had to my entire name when I first drove out to Los Angeles from Houston twenty years ago. But bank accounts aren’t fortune indicators. Not one person ever pointed me out in a crowd as one of the “fortunate”, because they just didn’t know where to look. I knew I had it, regardless of how little I had in my pockets. My parents gave it to me. And it’ll always beat the “stuff”.
‘Stuff”… Hell, that’s what safety deposit boxes are for. Fortune is FAR too precious for that nonsense. Fortune is the REAL value, because it has the ability to over-deliver… over, and over, and over again. “The stuff”, as my Grandaddy used to say, “Hell, that crap’s only glitter!”
Goodnight, God bless, and SHINE… until tomorrow!!!! -Sean Patrick Flanery
Ah, Sean. I have no words. You just get it man. Everything. You should give lessons on how to be a people.
Sean as usual I am blown away. Every ounce of this blog is true and to point out that unless you give yourself 100 percent everyday and you see the fortune you have to give than no one else will see it in you and believe enough in you to see the fortune you can offer others. Fortune is not the amount of money you have nor the quality of things you own its the person you strive to be and see in the mirror every morning.
How can you be fortunate if you don’t give everything you have to show yourself that you and only you are worth the fortune you earn.
Thank you for this blog Sean and showing us all the true meaning of shine.
By the way, I have my 12 year old read your blogs too. She LOVES BJJ and thinks you’re awesome! Figure maybe if she hears this stuff from someone besides just me and her dad, she’ll take it a little more seriously. Thanks for all you do, you’re a pretty spectacular man!
Financial crisis isn’t exclusively an american issue…it’s a worldwide thing. That’s why advice like promising “I will show up early,
I will stay late,
I will volunteer for all the hard stuff,
and I will give you $20 of value for every $10 you pay me”. is so very valuable. Obviousely I have no clue how jobinterviews or the entire advertising for a job/responding to a “company that looks for someone kindda-thing” works in other countries than my own, but it can NEVER be a bad thing to keep matters on your own home turf – ask NOT “what can you do for me” but tell your would-be employer “this is what I can offer you!”
That off my chest, there’s a matter that really saddens me. Because so many ppl are unemployed everywhere, there’s another sad trend in Denmark. I really REALLY hope this only takes place in my country: if you don’t get the job, you recieve a written “no thank you” that contains NOT a “we have employed someone else” but an utterly crushing “unfortunately you posses the wrong personality profile”. When you get a lot of those, you start to ask yourself “what is wrong with me?” rather than “what qualifications am I missing?” That is so sad.
But overall what the entire rambling boils down to is this: ask NOT what can they do for me, but what can I offer them (YES I took the librerty to re-write “ask not what can your country do for you, but what can you do for your country”)
I totally adore you and the way you look at life. It is just common sense but so many are lacking it these days. I am very lucky to have two hardworking parents who have instilled the same work ethic in me and because of it, I have prospered throughout my career and have often received promotions for the quality of work I have done. I often share your blogs with family and friends whenever they need to get out of the funk they are in. And by the way, I really love and respect how you don’t allow people to make excuses about their health. I have lost 100 pounds on Weight Watchers – it took many years but I did it the hard way, with willpower and determination….and yes, I do get up at 5 AM to run 6 miles before work! It is the ONLY way i can successfully start my day 🙂
How’d you get so smart, Sean? 🙂 Even though your blog posts may be prompted by a specific issue, it never ceases to amaze me how universal the concepts are. No matter whether you’re looking for a job, desiring a better home life, attempting to lose weight, etc, etc, etc – the advice you give can be applied across the board. Thank you for sharing your hard earned knowledge with us, and helping show that anyone can be “fortunate” if they want it bad enough to work for it! God bless you Sean!!
I learned from my mama, that it is FAR better to OVER ACHIEVE than to UNDER ACHIEVE. I always strive to be the best form of myself, cause I know I cam capable of it. With work, I simply wash more, or shows more kindness and drive, with school, I always make a cover picture for my papers to show class or, staple my paper so the teacher doesn’t have to. With friends, I always tend to care more and do the thinking for them before I think for myself. ONE thing, I haven’t fully given into was my weight, UNTIL recently. I couldn’t agree with you more Sean on what this blog is about, it’s very eye opening to see that you’re not alone with thinking this way and being this way as a person in life. I think if EVERYONE did EXACTLY this, the world would be in a better place and in a better state than its in. All I can do is is be even better than my best and keep smiling and shining for those who can’t. I appreciate you beyond words Sean.
Wonderful Sean. You are so right. My husband and I have tried very hard to teach our kids the importance of a good work ethic. So many kids and young adults we see are under the impression they just deserve things simply because they are alive. Their parents never taught them to work hard and to actually earn something for themselves. I blame the parents who insist that their kids receive a baseball trophy simply for showing up and i blame those parents who think keeping score at a soccer game might hurt someone’s feelings. It’s the same thing we face as grown ups. I come to work every day, I deserve that promotion. Never mind that the guy who’s been there half as long stays late, works weekends, and skips lunch when needed.
Our youngest is only 6 (she loves you btw!) but even she has chores to do every day. It starts there. Our son (You may remember him, @Sir_Norris) told us after about 9 months in the Army that he could see exactly what we were trying to accomplish in the way we parent and he thanked us. My husband brags about that as much as possible now. LOL!
Thank you for another wonderfully written blog. Thank your dad too. I still wonder if he had any idea that the advice he gave his son would someday help countless others?
Sorry my comments are always so long! Your blogs start me thinking and then I can’t help myself! Love and light to you Sean.
Too often people look at what someone else has and deem them “fortunate” or “wealthy.” For a while I did the same, till it hit me that what I have is more than what a lot of people have. Food, clothing, a roof, health…to realize what you have is to understand how much you have.
I really believe that if you are kind, and you work hard, good things happen. (Thank you Conan.) Life will not hand you free things. It will not make it easy and it will try to tear you down, but good things will happen. I look back on times I was so downtrodden, so upset and so sure my life was at the bottom. I kept pushing. I knew giving up would mean a lifetime of regret. My blood, sweat and tears were given and shed but I am where I am today because of my endurance.
The job I have now, I love. It’s great. To be honest, I was not qualified for it…I had to be taught every aspect of my job. I once asked what got me the job over other people who I am sure had the experience. I was told it was my personality and enthusiasm. “People can be taught a job, they can’t be taught a personality.”
It is so, so important to never stop, never give up. Keep going. I wish ten years ago someone told me what I am saying now: If it was easy, everyone would do it. Don’t give up, push though and keep smiling. Amazing things will happen. Great post. 🙂
Katie, your words above are just as motivating as Mr. Flannery’s are. I am very happy to hear that you kept going & pushing to be where you are today! Happy & successful! I believe and try to live as you state above: be grateful for all that I have because too many others have less or nothing. And also to be positive and give 100% of yourself.
May you continue to grow and be a light unto others with you wisdom!
Thank you for posting.
Much continued happiness and success.
Most kind regards,
I have a work ethic that has, at some times, driven me to the point of near collapse. And maybe that’s an imbalance I’ll have to address… But I work. Hard. Accepting any help whatsoever is difficult for me, because I want to handle it (anything, everything) myself. I am terrified to fail myself.
This blog is one I’ll probably come back to frequently. I’ll need to hear it often… Not to be told to work hard. I do that. I always have. But I’ll need to be reminded that it will eventually amount to something. Right now I am stuck in a frustrating place where my education is actually more damaging than helpful. My student loan bills are, frankly, crushing me. 5 years in a private college earning two degrees and a minor in a foreign language should provide me something of a job… Except I have no PAID work experience. And any job that doesn’t require experience tells me I’m “over qualified”…
So eventually I’m going to give the job to myself. I’m going to launch my own career right from these trenches. It’s just going to be a long, gritty, and even bloody fight to get there. Thanks for this, Sean. Oh, and I love your Granddaddy’s words about being criticized for having the winner’s way. I’m going to keep that in my heart.
Economic times are tough and many people are searching for a job so they can keep a roof over their head and food on the table.
True that getting a job is not always easy. Getting a job does not involve luck though. To further that statement to it’s truest point, there is no such thing as luck.
I have a full time job. I applied for the job I currently have. They hired me based on what value they thought I could contribute to their bottom line. All companies want employees that bring more value than what the company is paying in wages.
Can a company “let an employee go” even though that employee is providing more value than their pay check? Yes, oh yes they can! Is that fair? No. But life is not fair and that is just a hard fact we all have to accept. Does that mean you should give up? NO!
While I was in university I worked a full time graveyard shift as a forklift operator. Staying up all night, often lifting 50 lbs sacks of flour or rice … it was not an easy job. During the Christmas holidays the company brought in temporary workers at a pay of $14/hr to put cardboard boxes together. That is it … just put cardboard boxes together… ridiculously easy job. Temps would walk out because they thought the task was beneath them.
Not all employers are honest, many play “games” with employees. However; there are even more employees who have zero work ethic. Even now where I work, a corporate office, there are people who spend more time talking or walking around than actually working. Then they have the nerve to complain if the company’s bonus pay is less than it was last year. A bonus that is based on company revenues, revenues that increase when everyone does their job (and then some).
There are facets of our lives in which we can and should be selfish, but those are the facets we ultimately deal with on our own. Other than that, I’m pretty sick and tired of the never ending universal belief that our experiences should be based on what the EXPERIENCE does for US, and only us. It’s never about what we can do for the experience and those involved in that experience. Reciprocity has become such a rarity, and it’s depressing.
Satisfaction and fortune aren’t end games that are dependent on what something/someone can do for you – they’re actually predicated on what YOU can do for others. I’ve realized that there is plenty of room in certain life areas to be able to nourish myself, prioritize myself and be as selfish as I please, but I wasn’t always able to identify those areas. Any situation that involves the process of delivering myself, that’s exactly what I attempt to do: deliver. And not for my own personal benefit either.
In other words, I 100% agree with everything stated in this blog as always.
It is so nice to hear someone talk about the importance of a good work ethic. I was raised to believe that doing absolutely the best that you can do at whatever you do is it’s own reward. Regardless of whether anyone notices or not, when I do my best I feel good about what I do and better about myself. But,obviously I suppose, you can’t be selective, because if you just do your best because you expect a reward and then feel bad when you don’t get it you’ve missed the point completely.
Of course, not everyone has the great role models that I had
I also have a growing concern about the sense of entitlement in our society and more specifically in our youth. As an economist (and I really don’t know how that happened) in an academic environment, I’m surrounded by brilliant students. Most seem to think that once they get that holy grail of a diploma, society owes them a job, (of course I have graduate students who complain if they have to share an office.) Expectations are so high. So many young people have an expectation of being able to live at the same standard of living as their parents. But their parents didn’t have thousands of dollars in student debt. Nor did their parents have to start out in an economy slowly recovering from the worst rececession since the Depression.
Having said that, this country still brimming with opportunity, and opportunity is a great motivator. I had the great fortune to work with countries in the former Soviet Union and Eastern Bloc just after the Berlin Wall came down. Talk about terrible service when shopping. I was traveling in countries in which people (forgive my horrible simplification) were basically handed a job, given a salary that would largely never change no matter how one performed and offered no opportunity for advancement. I remember being the only person in a small store in in Southern Poland in middle of the day with two sales clerks and they both refused to wait on me. I finally just tossed the money on the counter and left. Fortunately, things are improving in most of these countries, but they still have a long way to go.
So kudos on the intelligent insight on a topic that needs attention both for the economy and society in general.
Simply brilliant!! To get “fortune” out of life you must be a go getter! The outcome will always be in your favor! <3
You hit the nail on the head. My Father has never been a great one that taught us lessons except one, inadvertently. That lesson was that just because he had/has money doesn’t mean my Brother and I do.
I did learn his work ethic and have cherished that to this day. I work hard everyday. There are too many people with entitlement issues or the “poor me” syndrome.
I am a huge believer in paying it forward by volunteering and see people without any options. The ones that ask for special treatment that do have options baffle me.
Houston misses you 🙂
I commend you and respect your honesty and truth!
My dad always said, “Girl, you gotta work for want you want. It ain’t easy, it’s damn hard. You work your ass off, give it all ya got. But I promise you, earning it yourself is better than gettin it handed to you. Don’t let anyone hand you anything because chances are, it ain’t worth a damn anyhow.”. My son was struggling with idea that ALL of his friends get anything they ask for Xboxes, PS3, all that “stuff”. Then just the other day when him and I were out at the park throwing the football around, he hugs me tight afterward and says, “Mom, I love you so much, do you know why?” When I asked why he said, “None of my friends parents do stuff with them like we do, they sit in front of the tv, computer, games and that’s it. I would much rather do something with you than have all that stuff”. I hope this means I am winning this war. 🙂
Some days I worry that my children will not see any value to my position as a stay at home mom. That they will grow up with the idea that “mommy didn’t work.” – because this world puts so much focus on the reward of a pay cheque. I am sure they will appreciate (at some point) that I was at home for them; but I also hope that they see my fortune was measured on a completely different scale. That they will know the profound privilege it was to be here as witness to all those small moments that unfolded as they grew big. Priceless.
Having only one income (thanks to a hard working hubby!), sure doesn’t get you the fancy big house full of shiny things. But I’d like to think that love is growing close in this small house.
That there is beauty to be found in the mundane daily tasks that must get done, and much value in the simple life.
So I won’t be leaving much of an inheritance; but I do hope to leave a Legacy.
Thanks as always for such inspiring words! And for making the world shine a little brighter with truth.
If there’s one thing I miss it’s working. I have always worked and taken care of my life and my girls. Providing for them and being able to give them everything they needed was the greatest feeling in the world. Ever since I had to stop working I’ve had bouts of depression and gotten fat. Recently I stopped that destructive cycle and made my own fate. But I miss going to work and feeling needed and helpful. An I really miss being able to give my girls the life they deserve and hate struggling every month. One day I will be healthy enough to go back to work and I can’t wait til that day comes
Something I’ve been fortunate enough to learn from my Daddy, my Momma and my Grandma is this, money is a nice thing to have, but it can’t by true love. My Grandma and Grandpa were an arranged marriage and by the grace of God they feel in love at first site. My Momma and Daddy met when my Daddy took my Momma’s sister on a date. Daddy always said that my aunt was a little too flaky, that my Momma was more his type. Grandma and Grandpa were married for nearly 60 years when Grandpa died. My Momma and Daddy have been married for 35 years. Another thing I’ve learned over the years from my family, an appreciation for music, the power of prayer, the peacefulness of the woods, there is a time to mourn and a time to celebrate a loved one’s life, and NO MATTER WHAT you stand up for your family!
I really like the underlying message here: that the process of achieving one’s goals is as equally important as the endpoint!
Dear Sean Patrick ,
Your Granddady would be proud of you !
So true !
Shine Until Tomorrow !
Sean, I have to give you credit, at one time, I only saw you as an “actor’.
Your twitter Q&A’s and this blog has me believing you are a phenomenal human being who cares for and willingly offers his opinions on health, principles and dedication. Just what this confused world needs. I survived the bombing of the WTC in ’93 and 9/11 and have coasted through the years on a cloud of PTSD, Major depressive disorder and anxiety/panic attacks . I have tried and continue therapy and meds and cannot rise above the fear and grief. When I read your words on Twit or your blog, I feel encouraged for a while until the depression takes hold again. But the key is “I FEEL ENCOURAGED”. I haven’t ever since the attacks until I began reading your blog. I followed you on tweet and you kindly followed back, so now several times a week I am fortunate to read your opinions and thoughts and smile and agree with them.. at this point in my life, this is the highlight in my closed up world, I have you to thank for that. I am not able to work at this time because I hid my depression for years until it floored me in 2011.. I am feeling despondent today and yet made a point of reading your blog because your heart is in every word and I feel part of something special. Thank you and God bless you for your kind heart, sense of humor and wisdom.
These words. This is what the world needs. Thank you Sean as always. -Ravyn
As usual, you hit the nail on the head. I don’t know when having a work ethic became such an antiquated concept. I see it every day with the younger generation coming into the workforce. They want instant gratification as if you owe them something. It has become “what can you do for me?” versus “what can I do for you?”. It comes down to good old fashioned home training and values. Thanks for the honesty and openness that you always share so you can help people make the most of themselves and their lives and shine 🙂
As always your words are inspiring & meaningful. Just what i needed to hear. I have a job interview coming up but was really doubting myself. You really motivated me to aim for it & give it a shot. Thank You, Sean!
Let me just say…WOW. I am truly blown away by your wisdom, Sean. Every blog I read of yours seem to catch me by surprise. You’re beyond intelligent and your words are truly helping me. I almost feel as if this blog was a sign, as if it were made for me to see. This past month has been nothing but trying to figure out my future. ALL I want in this world is to act. YOU are so much help to me. I remember you saying to a fan at a Con once that if he was serious about pursuing an acting career that he should move. Move. It is a simple word, yet one that REALLY changed everything for me. I had to pause the video on YouTube and reflect on what you had said. Move. Move to LA if you’re 100% serious about acting. Well, I AM serious. There isn’t much for me in my hometown anyway and all along I knew what had to be done in order for me to follow this dream, I was just nervous and afraid to make that step. I needed to physically HEAR someone say it and you did and coming from my idol, that meant SO much to me. I’m going to work my ass off at my job. I’m going to go the extra mile to show my employer and show myself my true worth. MORE will get done and I will see to that! And once this year is up, and I’m 18 and have some money saved and feel confident to make it out in LA, I am moving. I WILL NOT GIVE UP AND I WILL BE AN ACTRESS. I am confident and dedicated. I wish I could tell you all of this…I wish you knew how much you’ve done for me. You will always be my idol and my inspiration. Who knows, maybe I will even be lucky enough to act in a film with you one day. Wouldn’t that be a dream come true! Until then, I will keep shining…until tomorrow! 😀 ♥ Love you, Sean!
Wow Sean! This might be my favorite blog entry so far! Loved it:)
I could go on and on how relevant what you said is to my present situation and I am grateful you took the time to write it. I was fired from my job recently for having a work ethic and that blew me away on one level, but didn’t surprise me on another. I took a position in a maximum level state correctional facility because I needed a job and they were the first ones to offer me one and I was treated with more genuine respect from the men behind the bars than the onn;t making an income to run it (mainly the higher management- not the warden, etc, but the shift captains and their lieutenants) and had the ones incarcerated and employed there living in more fear of retaliation and human cruelty than anyone else in the entire institution. I wasn’t a corrections officer, but dealt with every level of prisoner on one level or another and prison is a depressing place for anybody to be and many need to be separated from society, but they are still human beings and again, I learned this more from first hand experience in ways I never imagined, which is why I wouldn’t trade the experience for anything, but I learned the lesson and am ready to move forward with a more compassionate heart and a stronger conviction to do what I know is right and not cower down in the face of adversity for doing the right thing, no matter what beat down and shunning from others may come my way, knowing that it is the shadows of fear and the mirage of strength through bullying that is the wrong way to go and never worth compromising my work ethic and believing in treating my fellow human beings as my equals not people to judge or feel superior to, because it is hypocritical at best. We are all flawed, some just pay for it more than others. No one is better than anyone else and anyone who thinks they are is already headed down the road to a dead end of an empty legacy and that has nothing to inherit but their own delusional belief of elitist entitlement to their worthless fortune of an empty heart and soul. The bottom line is that our only true opponent in life is ourselves as well as our only authentic competitor. Others are a gauge, but we are the only person when push comes to shove. I appreciate what you say and what you think and what you believe and as with my own grandpa, your grandaddy knew what he was talking about. Right is right. Wrong is wrong. A spade is a spade. And you are one cool cowboy that I can relate to in a lonely, lonely time that will pass soon enough, but I truly appreciate you putting yourself out there for me and everyone else who takes the time and has the gift of reading shine… until tomorrow. Thanks!
Again’ i enjoy to read your blog.I realized that you are more than just an actor.You are a wonderful human being’ smart and cares about people.
I agree that we should teach our children what is hard work and learn to appreciate what they have in life.When you achieve things in hard work you learn to appreciate it more that just get things the easy way.I worked as a teacher for many years.U nfortunately i was injured in a car accident’ and had to stop working’ my mom had alzheimer and i had to take care of her and myself’.And my dad got depression and i also needed to take care of him. I stopped working and stopped living.I started suffering from depression’ anxiety’ closed myself in the house and feeling like life was over.
My parents died a few years ago and when i talk about hard work’ i mean my hard work start now.To get out there’ return to life’ start a new job’ and feel im doing something for myself.
I want to thank you Sean for inspiring me to start walking again’ eat healthier'(after the accident i hardly went for walks)’and thank you for tweeter’ and listening to your fans.When i was home alot i tried to overcome my depression by watching many of your films and tv serials.I loved to watch it’ and it realy helped in hard times.
So’ thanks again Sean’ for being such a wonderful actor and person
Good Morning Captain,
I know you read all of these comments and I just wanted to say how very wonderful and special it is that you give so much time and effort into not only making your fans feel appreciated but more importantly empowering them to change their lives and in many cases save them. I know this blog set me on my path but it was meeting you that inspired immediate and drastic change and was exactly what I needed.
I’m working on a project for you that I’m going to give/reveal to you in Louisville, but I feel like I need your permission first. Which is a catch 22 because I so very much want to surprise you. I think this is too big to spring on you though if I’m not positive of your reaction… Sunny has assured me that you will be absolutely thrilled and that I shouldn’t ruin the surprise…. But I respect you too much to not try to get a go ahead beforehand.
The project is just my was of being an Ambassador of SHINE and your message… It’s probably equivalent to “My single drops on Tuesday” big… So can you let me know if I should go ahead and surprise you or if you want to know what it is and approve it or want design input….
I’m so sorry I’m rambling and you are so busy….
Thank you so much for your time and everything you do! You totally made our night by bombing our hashtag battle 😉
Your Shining Ninja in Training,
I don’t mean for this to get posted, I just know you read these. Thanks!! =D
I look forward to seeing it!!! I trust!!
The fact that you trust me means more to me than anything!! =D Thank you, Captain!! I won’t let you down!!
Dear Captain Sean,
We had this amazing idea we really wanted to run by you and see if you would be interested in it. Val and I want to do the Tough Mudder Challenge [http://toughmudder.com/] this year and we really want to get more Shine Until Tomorrowers with us and go at it as a team. We thought it’d be a great thing to do to boost morale, team spirit and also give a goal to people who are struggling with their fitness plans. This’d be a great opportunity for them to have something very realistic and very exciting to train to and we thought it might be pretty motivational.
We’re ready to kick ass and push beyond our limits at that challenge, and support each other in training for it and in the challenge itself. Teamwork and a kick ass attitude is what we seek to create through this! We accept any challenge. If we won’t be able to run anymore, we will crawl to the finish line and still finish because we refuse to give up. After all, good things come to those who wait, but we refuse to wait, since we don’t want leftovers we will hustle and kick any of our fears and failures of the past away and endeavor to persevere. We know it’ll be hard and we know it won’t be a walk in the park, but determination and mental strength will surely get us to the end of the track.
And then we thought further, and thought that maybe if enough Shiners joined with our plan, you might be willing to join us too! It’d be absolutely amazing and if people saw that you supported the idea I’m sure we’d get a lot of them on board and all go training every single day. We thought that you might be so kind as to motivate your troops into action by joining with our cause!
We do realize that you have a busy schedule and a lot of business to attend to, so we wanted to ask in well in advance. We were hoping to do this at the end of summer or later, but we thought that you should decide which one we go to since you’re our Captain and troops will follow in your steps if you decide to do this with us! You already gave us the “wake up, kick ass, repeat” attitude and we want to kick some major butt with this, and prove to ourselves that we’re stronger and better, and it’d be great if our captain lead the way!
So, if you think this sounds cool, how many Shiners do you think we’d need to get you to participate? Right now two of us are really mad about the idea, but we’re sure if you joined our cause we’d get a lot of shiny gals and guys to join in! Also, all proceeds go to the Wounded Warrior project and we’d love to gather as much support as we can!
We’d love to employ the Captain’s hustle for our cause and are ready to work for it!
Your Shining Ninjas in the making
Maria Mika (Living by the Russian proverb “Die, but do”)
Val Sanford (Staring The Elephant Down)
What you are doing for fatherless youth and unwanted women is wonderful. You are letting people know that someone out there cares and there is a standard to live up to. You ARE supposed to give to and back to society. Your tips for the interview are spot on! In one of my jobs, I had to hire people and the “i’m a people person” or “I’m a quick learner”, etc, didn’t cut it. Those are answers for Miss America. Why does my company need a people person? What computer programs have you already learned and have competency in to show me you’re a quick learner? Can you type code? I was always taught to research the company I was to interview with even if I was going to wash the ladies’ room. You’d be surprised who gets remembered.
Your example is very competitive and it’s that thing that will have the interviewer make NOTES and not DAWDLES on your application. If I were still in the working world, I’d eat you up like corn flakes for any bit of wisdom you could toss my way. But, aside from a few hours on this thing, a couple of hours reading., a couple of hours of writing, tv making noise for company, the rest of my time is spent making deals with God. I know he won’t meet me on them, but we just have that kind of relationship.
See, I don’t want to live past the age of 62. I’m 43 now. I’ve endured 13 years of varying levels of pain, more painful with each passing year. I’ve done physical therapy a number of times but I didn’t progress. I still do the exercises because I don’t want to atrophy. I’m still very limber. I can still bend over and put my hands on the floor beside my feet and I do it every day, but as I bend down, electricity shoots out my achilles’ tendons and when I walk my hands back up my body I fall to my knees because the L5,L4&L3 discs ooze acid onto my nerve endings and I scream silently for at least a full minute. There are 8-9 discs in varying stages of degeneration, osteoarthritis in all major joints and both middle knuckles and the second and third metacarpals of the right hand (never fight with a wall when you’re drunk….or sober for that matter, the wall usually wins). There’s spinal stenosis, bone spurs here and there, fibromyalgia, myofascial pain syndrome, and CFS. One of the discs that hasn’t blown yet, thank God, gets inflamed and puts pressure on a nerve that helps move the diaphragm so I get short winded sometimes, almost daily.
The reason I chose 62 is I believe by then I will have had time to see grandchildren and make memories with them. I don’t want to live when S1 and S2 go and I can’t feel myself lose control of my functions.
Early onset dementia runs rampant on my mother’s side of the family and I have mental illness to boot which is also a predecessor to dementia. I’ve already laid the paving stones with Anomic Aphasia. But that’s 20 years from now. And like I say…. God doesn’t make deals.
He makes promises, he promises to give me the strength to get through every day if I listen to that still, small voice within. It’s the Irish in me that makes deals. It’s the Cherokee in me that holds me to the earth as one of her children. And it’s the Catholic who I am that prays diligently for my sons to endure me, for the strength to do as much as I can while I can, and the continued Faith, even on the suckass days and in just 84 days into this 2014 new year, so far, the suckass days are winning, but that’sbecause I’ve got another month to go without meds. Well, three more weeks. 20 days. I hate changing docs. ok, i’ve bellyached long enough!!!!!
Going to turn some music on, and get my groove thang, get my groove thang yeah, yeah, come on everybody now! no boogie…. some salsa and cumbia…. and then night meds until my asshole cat wakes me up in the morning three hours before the meds would have let me sleep! Maybe I’ll Shine in my sleep! lololol God I love ya Sean! You’re a good egg. Brilla….hasta mañana!!
I think one of the most true statements is that we have courage for others but not fot ourselves. It’s extremely true for me. I’m the most supportive friend and encouraging person for others. I just can’t take my own advice. I try so hard to inspire others. I’m making a proclamation that I will proclamate very soon. Just dipping my toes in first. I’ve had daily severe pain for 23 yrs straight-no break. Been to over 30 specialists. And I need to proclaim that I believe I can somehow beat it. You are incredibly inspiring….so you have made me believe. Just not ready to set that goal date just yet. Thank you for starting my process. You have no idea how much it means. Seriously Sean. Thank you for being the incredible human being you are. I need to shine.
It’s a great point and you nailed it, BUT there’s a point that i don’t agree.
You said that if you go to a store that is open since 8 am to 8 pm, and you go at 7:59 you don’t have the same service as if you go at noon. That’s correct, but it’s because we don’t want to work. When you go to a store that you KNOW that is closing, you do a small, kind of emercy purchase, you don’t do a major purchase, trolleys full of things and acting like you have the whole time of the world. IT’S DIRRESPECTUL!!!! We have family to go home to. In my case, i clock in early and clock out late, but my boss dosen’t pay overtime, and insist that we don’t clock out late. So in my stor from 9 am to 9 pm, my time table usualy is from 5:30 pm to 9-.30 pm, so if the store close at 9pm i only have 30 minutes to do cleaning, desenfecting, take the stand down and prepare everything for the next day. So i’m sorry if i’m being a little blunt but PEOPLE ARE DISREPECTFUL and don’t understand that we are humans to.
Above & beyond will pay dividends… maybe not immediately, but it’ll come back to you.
I was never given direction. I had a very abusive father, a mother that left us when I was around three, and raised by my grandmother, who reminded us daily that she had already raised her own, and did not want to raise us but had to. She took us to church twice on Sundays, once on Wednesday evenings, and occasionally I would accompany her for Tuesday night Bible studies. I lived in a very small southern town. I was related to most, and everyone knew everyone. That is one of the very reasons no one did anything about my dad, or half would never believe he was anything other than a very over protective father even if they witnessed bruises or withdrawn behavior from myself. I was never taught much about how to live outside said environment. I did not even learn to drive until I had finally left home at the age of 19. I was not allowed to date, or to hang out with friends other than during school hours. I was never prepped for my own life. I was treated like an object rather than a human. I gathered from the lives around me. I knew there were certain morals that a young lady should try and stick to, but blindly did so, mostly to be more excepted. No one cared enough to dig deeper as long as I could imitate well enough. Long story short, I finally got away. I wish I could say to never see that house again, but that is another story. I tell you all this to explain. Point is, I have been drawn here. I started reading out of curiosity, but I have found a treasure. I have gathered as much earth under my feet as I could in order to feel safe to stand on, but I have found after all that work I am still standing on sand. I needed the missing directions on how to gather and build it properly. I just want to say thank you for all your words. Thank you for remembering all that you have shared here. I take them all to heart. Thank you for being such an inspiration, intentionally or not. You really are. Thank you. <3
Beautiful. God bless.
This blog made me think a lot about the way I work…. and led to a beautiful ‘Happy Birthday’ card from my boss this year:
‘Thank you for your great support and your commitment. Love, happiness and health for you!’
Well, happy birthday from me too!!
Ahhhh! Thank you!!! My birthday is 3 days ahead of yours and I’ll catch you up with 50 in 3 years! (This is why my Twitter name is Steffi6810). I really don’t feel that old as this number wants to tell me. I suppose neither do you!
Then you’re doing something right… but more likely a LOT of things.
In addition: I want to tell you a funny thing: Now that I know how hard it is to find the right translation for a word with different meanings (you are playing here as well with the term ‘Fortune’), it was funny to see that the screenplay writers of Young Indiana Jones failed!
In the episode 10 ‘Phantom Train of Doom’ the actors talked German with English subtitles. But they took the wrong translation for ‘destination’ (of the bomb) : They translated it ‘determination’ instead of ‘target’!
And the soldiers ‘awakened’ the men!
Not easy, as you can see!!