I think sadness/grief turns off a certain part of your brain… maybe out of necessity… maybe for survival.
Okay, so look… I met a chick some time ago. She was in jail and I saw a picture of her on the Internet. Hell, I guess I was feeling charitable so I got in my car and drove. There was something about her eyes in that picture that felt familiar… like home.
I figured I’d just go and meet her face to face and then decide if she was worthy of being bailed out. Yeah, I was incredibly naive in my dissection of relationships back then. I honestly thought the choice was solely mine, and that my discretion alone would decide her fate.
But when she walked out past that gate and seized my gaze, her entirety sept into my soul and made me completely incapable of leaving that place alone. I could feel the bulk of her mass gluing my feet to the floor, and she didn’t release me until she was confident we’d leave together. So we did.
I bought her a meal, and we sat on a curb to eat right outside that jail.
But she didn’t want hers. She wanted mine.
She knew better than me. She always did.
So I gave her mine.
And it became her name.
That was 15 glorious years ago.
I left my house childishly thinking I was going to do a chick a favor.
My GOD, how naive.
Seems she didn’t need any bailing.
…It was me all along.
Donut Flanery
PS I really needed a minute… and so I took one. I appreciate the patience and I’m sorry for the absence, but I heard the switch click back on sometime last night… and there’s a boy in a bathroom that needs saving.
Us
Donut
From forever… to 1/25/15 at 12:45 pm… to forever.
She left a seed.
…but a seed is all it takes.
God bless.
-Sean Patrick Flanery
Aww…Bless her soul, she will be waiting for yoyou! I do believe that!
sending love your way she will always be with you
I just LUV your writing it always brings me to either tears of laughter or tears of sadness and always with a message which is just inspiring. Donut has been an inspiration to all of us and I just love hearing your wondering times together ❤️❤️ We have missed u and we all need a minute so I am passing hugs to you
Beautiful love story.There’s not a lot I can say other than that except you have a big heart and a giving soul.God Bless You
Oh I am so sorry to hear this… You have my prayers and shared heartbreak. I felt like I knew her too. Yet I can’t imagine what you’re feeling now. Take all the time you need. Now I need a minute…
Love,
Corissa
How did donut die? Sorry if it comes out as rude or something but I’m curious.
NOOOO!!!
Wow… so, SO sorry to hear this, Sean!
Pets are family and for every one that leaves us, a piece of us goes with them.
Sorry so for your loss. Donut will always be a part of you. This blog was beautiful!
Oh wow.. thank you for sharing.. God Bless XOXO
I am so so sorry for your loss. My heart hurts for you. God bless you and your family too.
I love Donut and always will. I’m turning myself off for a bit now….
I’m so sorry for your loss! She’s in a better place now, I’m sure of it. You made her life an incredibly joyful and fantastic one and she died knowing she was loved very much. Feel hugged and take all the time you need!
Sorry for your loss, our pets are family
Donut was the luckiest dog in the world to have had a wonderful family like yours. You gave her a great life and she gave you unconditional love. Take the time to greive, and when you are ready show her how much you loved her by rescuing a new friend. They will never replace her in your heart but she would want you to make another dog happy.
aww i know how you feel i was the same with my dog cujo…i miss her. just think of all the great times n fun times
Beautiful tribute, Sean. My heart goes out to you.
Awww. I’m seriously tearing up. I love dogs and I hate to hear something has happened to someone’s beloved furbaby. I had a scare with one of my dogs and thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown. I’m so sorry to hear about Donut. She will be greatly missed.
I thought I was saving my Bella but it turned out that she saved me.
So glad Donut found you.
So sorry for your loss.
Oh, Sean. What can I say. I am so sorry to hear this and yet what you have written is so touching and beautiful. I am sure Donut’s star is shining brightly overhead tonight and will for nights to come. God bless.
Her pawprints are on your heart, Sean. Forever. Much love to you, my friend. God bless.
I am so sorry Sean!! I know how rough it can be losing someone you care so greatly about. I think we all know just how much you loved Donut, so no one can blame you. Wishing you well and sending lots of love your way!!!
So heart-wrenching loss to hear of the unimaginable loss of your beloved best friend and a kinda soulmate as well. I know exactly what all your going through and what deep emotional grief and anguish that your are currently enduring as I have had more than the average amount of loss in my own life… Most Recently on the dates of 3/2013, 6/2/2014, and 11/21/2014 ! ONLY Some such as ourselves that are dealing with great loss(es) such as you and myself cann begin to know the almost unbearable mental and emotional painful grief and anguish which almost always seem to happen in solemn circumstances as these. Take great heart that you will see the sunlight one day and that your wonderfully beloved best friend is awaiting your reunion and that she is watching as your beautiful Guardian Angel from HEAVEN !! MAY GOD SO RICHLY BLESS YOU, SEAN, Please Keep Up your deep faith that all is and will be well in time. “That which does kill us will only make us stronger.”– Anonymous
Sometimes we don’t know the impact of something until it’s gone. She was part of your soul and she made that soul shine to its brightest. She was a beauty and brought out the best in you. I know she brought out the best in us all, for we always smiled and felt better knowing she was there with her little outfits or looking at you lovingly, masking us look to our own for comfort and understanding. She will always live on…within memories, within pictures, within your heart. God Bless and know we all love you and are here for you.
-Sunny <3
I’m so sorry, Sean. Thank you for giving Donut a great life, and for sharing your photos and stories of her.
Beautiful. Your grief is felt and shared a million times over with those of us who love their pets so deeply. For those of us that see the souls in those trusting, loving eyes. The hole that is left in our souls is so worth the life we gave them…the souls we saved. I will save again and again and in doing so my soul is made whole again.
Aw. I can relate. A little fur-angel I owned in middle school was the best thing in my life at the time. He was always there when I needed him. When I was upset, I would cry into his fur while her just sat there, being brave enough for the both of us. When he died, I was devastated. I still cry about it sometimes. He was my baby, my rock, and my best friend.
Very sorry for your loss Sean. The pain of losing one’s furry soul mate is unbearable. Having been through it myself, you do indeed need a ‘minute’ to recover. Thoughts and love are with you xo
Oh man, I’m so sorry for your loss. I really hate to hear this.
RIP Donut
Omg! You made me cry. So sorry about your baby Donut. I know that sadness of losing a pet all too well. I’ve had two female dogs pass on me in my life and now have a boy dog. Take time to grieve and adopt again. Donut would want you to do that. That’s why as much as losing a fur baby hurts because they are family, love is a gift that can be given as long as you have breathe and never really dies. It only takes in different forms in this life and the next. Xoxo
First of all: I am so so sorry for your loss.
Second: Never ever be sorry for taking a minute to grief. You have all the right to do that and you can do that as long as you need.
Some may say it was just a dog. Screw those people. Donut has been a really great ladyfriend to you and she learned you some lessons, just like every living creature is able to teach us things. I bet she is running around in dog-heaven, telling everybody how amazing her human was. That he painted her nails and that he gave her a home, when others placed her behind bars. That her friend shot pictures and showed them to everyone, to the whole world.
Take your time ninja. And yes, sometimes you need to flick the light back on. Someday you need to go on. Live with the memories and cherish them.
Take that seed and let it transform into something wonderful.
Again: I am sorry! Take care!
Soo sorry for your loss. How lucky she was to have been loved and cared for by you… And, vice versa.. Xoxo
there is nothing more living then a dog when you see the love in there face daily is a blessing you are rite we don’t pick them they pick us and we are so blessed to have them with us
Lovely story! So sorry for your loss!
Sorry for your loss Sean. May donut always play in the fields of heaven.
I know what you feel ….. sorry ….I remember my first doggie…… take care Sean !!! …
Awwww. She was gorgeous! Reminds me of my Angel. We had to put her down about 2 years ago.She was bitten under her tail by a rattle snake and we didn’t know until it was too late. At least your baby had some playmates waiting for her over the rainbow bridge!
Nice! Very, very nice. ✌️
Wonderful story! All of my animals are rescues as well. They actually rescued me though! Thanks for sharing and so sorry for your loss!
Beautiful. So sorry for your loss. I love my 2 beauties with all my heart. One from the streets, one 24 hours away from her death sentence, at 6 weeks old no less. They keep a piece of your heart with them.
glad you took a minute and shared with me. Your minute will last my life time 🙂 be well . Respect , Gypsy 🙂
Sean,
I am so sincerely sorry to hear about the passing of Donut ! What an awesome dog seemed to be! Thank you for sharing the story with us ….she is a sweet angel! May you find comfort in knowing that you gave her a life full of love and she knew how much you cared for her. Grief has a way of slowing us down, but at the same time is a part of living. Please don’t apologize we will be here waiting and eager to hear the story when you are ready to finish telling it . My heart and thoughts are with you! RIP Donut!
Oh hon, I’m so sorry. 🙁
And, I’m crying a little bit. Good thing you took that minute. I’m so, so sorry to hear about Donut, but also SO glad you shared some of her with all of us. I know how her pictures always brightened my day. May she rest in peace. God Bless.
Hey there Sean,
So sad to hear that Donut passed! Even though I don’t know either of you, I know from your stories how much she meant to you and vuce versa!
I lost five if my beloved pets so far, they live on in my heart forever. They’ve been my teachers, mentors, friend, companion and confidant. I wouldn’t be who I am without them!
My Mugssy will show her dog heaven, he was good like that!
O my goodness, this broke my heart. I’m SO SO SORRY darlin! Dogs make the world better and it sounds like beloved Donut did that for you. Just know our hearts break with you, maybe not a much, but they break all the same. Love you Cap.
God bless.
Here’s I hope that the tears of all of us relief some of the pain. Know that the weight is shared here, Sean. I think we can all relate to this, we’ve all lost a 4-legged so dearest friend in our lives so we know how that feels. Hope that Donut keeps on playing around and have her flashy and wonderful nails always done.
Chin up, Captain. Be proud cos you made each other so happy.
I am so sorry. It’s so hard to lose such a close friend like Donut. Once they have their hooks into you there is no letting go of them. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Donut is now on the “Rainbow Bridge.” God Bless.
So sorry for you loss. I have rescued two myself and they are currently saving my life (long story, no need to describe here). These wonderful dogs, cats, roommates, playmates, soul catchers, life savers lives are far too short compared to our human lives, in most cases. However, this does give us the opportunity to save and be saved by multiple muses over time, when the time is right. Grief does not accurately describe the emptiness when one of our life guides moves across the rainbow bridge. But when you are ready, there is always another, waiting to assist you through the next phase of your life. Rescues are the best and I hope that once you have grieved sufficiently, you will consider letting another one rescue you again. I am certain that Donut taught you as much as you taught her in your short time together. Allow that seed to grow and it is amazing what can come of it. Peace and comfort in your time of grief. Tanya
Sean
I am incredibly sorry to her of the passing of your precious girl. My thoughts are with you as I am an owner of three dogs and cannot imagine what it would be like to loose any of them. Pets they are a part pf the family and she will forever be in your heart….God bless
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel. I just lost my dog Sunny a few days ago. She was 13 years old. I rescued her after someone threw her out of a moving car onto the highway into traffic when she was only 5 weeks old. She spent every day of those 13 years glued to my side, brightening even my darkest day with her little doggie smile. I’m sending you big hugs and love from me and my furbabies as we share your grief. Take solace in the memories and the knowledge that your life is better now for having her in it.
Oh Sean I am so sorry for your loss she is with you always
Sean, you have my heart feeling heavy. I am sorry about Donut. I’ve been following you for years, I dunno how long but I saw Donut’s picture, and after time I really loved her too!
I understand. My Jacoba passed 3 years ago. He was a border collie, a rescue, passed at 16. I had him 14.
It will be better. Shine on, as you say.
Your in my thoughts and prayers…..dreams sometime too. ; )
Hello Sean,
U don´t need to be sorry!!
It´s ok if u had needed time and I think everyone here will understand it.
I am so sorry for you about all that. 🙁
Can´t imagine how I would feel, if my lil Minka has to leave me.
Perhaps it makes u smile to know, that my daddy´s become awake.
He does not know who he is…and where….but I hope he will remember soon (of course, they will help him to in rehab). He has survived it…he´s a real fighter…that counts!
I don´t restart smoking during all this shit…really proud about that.
Send u a lot of hugs an kisses and some shine, Captain!
Animals have a sneaky way of stealing your heart. Maybe it’s their unconditional love. Perhaps it’s the fact that you can tell them all of your secrets and they’ll never break your confidence (unless it’s a parrot – don’t share secrets with a parrot). Could be the way that they greet you every time you come home as if you’ve been gone for ages. Animals are heaven-sent and give us such joy. It is absolutely heartbreaking when we have to say good-bye.
I’ve been in your shoes, man…it actually physically hurts when they have to go. I think it hurt more when Buddy died than when my best friend died…how sick it that?!? I’ll never get another pet because of it…it’s sad cause I love to squish them!
P.S. you’re a motivation KING!
Oh no……I am so sorry to hear about Donut. I am glad though that you found each other. Run free baby girl! If a really nice lady named Colleen comes up to you, just know she’s good people. She loves to tell stories about your Daddy and that watch of his. All my love.
Sean, I am sooo sorry! I know she brought a lot of joy to your life, and you brought joy to hers as well.
Sean, I am so truly sorry for your loss. It is so amazing when you take that chance and it pays off in so many more ways than you could have ever imagined. Whether it be 15 years, 15 months or 15 minutes that they are with you…they truly become part of your family. Donut was loved by all, but most of all by you. May she find peace while she waits for you at the Rainbow Bridge…
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. Her bright eyes are intent; Her eager body quivers. Suddenly she begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, her legs carrying her faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together….
~Author Unknown
So sorry to hear this! Your story about meeting her is almost the same as me meeting my Samson. It was love at first sight, so I bailed him out. I’ve had him for 17 years and he’s still with me so far. So I definitely feel your sorrow. My heart is broken for you!
i feel your grief. Last year I lost mine. We don’t pick our animal loves they pick us. So very sorry for your loss.
BTW – It’s Beautiful Heart Touching Story !!! God bless
“Not ‘gone’, just away” <3 She will always be with you. Much love <3
It is always sad when a beloved pet passes on. My beloved collie Lady passed away several years ago. She knew it was her time and instead of passing away on my bed she went outside and passed away in her favorite spot in the shade. I swear I can still feel her presence around me especially when I am sick.
Oh Captain *hugs tight* I’m so sorry. I had to put my eldest pup down last Friday and I totally understand. I can’t seem to think. He was mine for 17 years, I’ll be his forever. I’ll raise a glass in honour of your Donut tonight. Be well <3
I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words at a time like this, just know that she waits for you…
I am so very sorry for your loss. We only trick ourselves into believing we rescue them. I lost my bloodhound back in early December and this brought fresh tears to my face. R.I.P., Donut. I know you were loved and will be missed.
I am so sorry for your loss…the way you memorialized her with this post will forever be in my heart. She is waiting for you at the end…she will never forget your kindness. I am not going to bring up the significance of you saving her life, and the instant bond that was created because of it…but I will say that I’m sure that, on some level, she saved yours as well…companions are forever…you have my condolences and love.
Sean, I am so, so sorry to hear this. Donut seemed like such a sweet, loving girl. We recently lost both our dogs, and god it hurts. Hope you’re doing okay. Keeping you and yours in my thoughts.
I’m sorry for your loss, but so glad you were blessed with her love all that time. She’s still watching over you and will be waiting.
I am so sorry for your loss. I had to put my 2 precious bulldogs down a year ago and it broke my heart. Getting unconditional love is such a gift and fills your heart. Our precious pets have a special key to unlock a part of our heart that adds another layer of love to warm us. You were lucky to have had Donut and she added to your heart & soul, which will always be that much fuller. xoxo
“Maybe I will never be
All the things that I want to be
But now is not the time to cry
Now’s the time to find out why
I think you’re the same as me
We see things they’ll never see
You and I are gonna live forever
We’re gonna live forever
Gonna live forever
Live forever
Forever ”
“Oasis – Live Forever”
Your words are always so inspiring or humorous or just a kick in the behind when it’s needed. This time, they are poetic and beautiful and bring to mind the three amazing creatures that have filled my life with unconditional love and comfort over the years. Donut was as blessed to have you just as much as you were blessed to have her!
Prayers and hugs and love to you!
God bless…
Tammy and Justin Huff
There’s no words to how sorry I am that you are feeling the grief of a loss like that. I’m not sure there are any words that can make it better but I do pray it will get easier soon. My first best friend went away while i was at school. He gave me 12 amazing years of love and comfort. Although nothing can ever replace him I found my baby I have now and love him just as much. He’s not the same but he is his own soul and it’s worth the sorrow that is coming someday. Anyway all I can say is take the time you need to heal, and remember all the good times and all the good things she tought you . It gets easier down the road.
Love and prayers.
Words can never express exactly how I feel when someone loses a furry family member. I’m sorry never sounds like it is enough. Their passing has always left a tremendous hole in my heart. I truly believe Donut will be waiting for you. I hope you will continue to share stories about her. Fly free, Donut. You have my deepest condolences, Sean.
So sorry about your loss 🙁 RIP Donut, you were a beautiful dog!
I’m so sorry for your loss. We’ve all been there but no words can really assuage the pain you’ve been feeling but take comfort in that you’re not alone. It seems you were destined to be together for as long as the Fates allowed – you saved her life and she saved yours. Lovely way she got her name as well. Many blessings and my deepest sympathies to you during this time.
Dani xo
Aw damn. I’m sorry sweetie. But for as long as you had her, she was obviously loved.
I’m setting in the parking lot in front of a dollar store with tears in my eyes. I have followed you since we met in Virginia Beach. My best friend ran a rescue for animals until she suddenly passed away. I take food and treats to the local animal control pound in her honor. Next time I’m going to give a little extra in Doughnut’s honour. I encourage everyone who reads this to do the same or better yet take a pet home if you can. If you don’t have cash give an hour or two of time.
I’m so sorry for your loss, we are so lucky to have the love of an animal like Donut in our lives once in a lifetime, they are our family too, They save us as much as we save them, unconditional love that is always there. Thank you for sharing her with us, we all came to love and enjoy her through you, she was a very special girl….God Bless and Much Love to you and your family…
I’m so sorry for your loss, I can relate! Sending hugs and prayers to you and your family!
So hard to lose a beloved family member. They give so much to us. Loving us no matter what. Always there no matter what. Sorry….
So sorry for your loss, but so happy you were able to spend 15 wonderful years with Donut. My baby boy Alex passed away about 14 years after I busted him out of doggy jail, so I can understand what you are going through. The hurt never goes away unfortunately, just keep remembering the happiness you brought to each other!
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dog too when she was 15.
She was actually my grandma’s dog, my sister and I helped her to choose her as a pup and named her Misty. We enjoyed playing with her every day. When my grandma died of cancer, Misty came to live with us. She was more than our dog, she was one of the family, one of our own with her own personality. On april 6th it will be 5 years ago that I had to make that decision to let her go. Not a day goes by without thinking about her. No human ever gave me the amount of love and friendship that she did. She will always be with me like Donut will always be with you. I am glad for the joy Donut gave you and thankful that you shared her with us.
I feel realy sad for your loss.
Awe nooo, poor darling. That’s such sad news, but I know even though she wasn’t human, she had such a bright light, and through you she lit up tons of people, he light will continue to shine on through everyone’s hearts she touched. We can wait for more blogs, you take the time you need to heal, We love you, and if you need anything we’re all here.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Sean,
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please take all the time you need. Donut will be greatly missed. She was like our dog as well. We enjoyed her life watching vicariously through your pictures and your loving words towards her. May God bless you and keep you during this sad time.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your furbaby…..Sending hug’s from me and wet kisses from Grunt my big fur baby.
aw man, you saved her and she saved you…just precious. I’m so sorry for your loss but also so happy you found her when you did. Hearts and Thoughts… xoxo
My heart’s heavy today…I’m so sorry to hear about Donut. I agree about how grief somehow shields us from the worst of the hurt, at least for a while, until it’s dull enough to bear its weight. And it’s a heavy one. God Bless. And know that when she chose you, she knew how perfect you were for her. You saved her life…so she spent the rest of hers repaying that favor by filling your life with her unbounded love and joy. She will be missed so much, by all of us. Rest in peace, sweet doggy.
Beautiful story. I’m so sorry for your loss and at the same time, joyous that you had each other over the years. Hugs from a fellow animal lover and rescuer.
Sorry for your lost. It’s hard, I know.
Hugs love and shine your way brother, I am so sorry for your loss it is never easy to deal with losing a beloved friend. This story is so beautiful Sean and it really brought tears to my eyes, I know what Donut meant to you and she was beautiful and could tell the relationship you guys had was beautiful and special. In the family we always had animals in the house a beloved dog a couple cats birds fish hah every kind, Though I remember the most when I brought my cat home and how he lived with me for about 13 years it was a-lot like how you brought Donut home I can deeply relate to this story. Zippy was going to be put down if a home was not found for him and I took him in and we had the most amazing bond I feel the same way like you did for Donut I thought I was saving him when he was saving me . He lived for 13 wonderful years was always there for me and got sick and I had to put him down it was the first animal I put down all by my self alone with my parents not handling it.. I held him when he died. It was very hard to do that even when I had been through losing our other animals. You find your self needing a minute and even after time many more minutes and its ok to need that its healthy. They never truly leave us they are always there with us even when gone then and now I felt him there. They always remain with us and give us everything they gave us while they were alive its just a little different. I know that always in a way Donut will be there with you and that will help the healing because we all need to heal through these things. And when you feel sad you will smile from the most fondest memories something so small that means so much. Here for you and thinking of you all the love hugs and shine that I can send your way. You’ve been there for me and I am beyond grateful for that. Shine Until Tomorrow Sean XoXoXo ~ Penelope. (Pen-A-Lope )
So sorry to hear this! Our pups are so much a part of our families. Mine are getting up there and I fear every day losing them. They have brought me such joy and although you think your are saving them, they are in turn saving you. She is now in doggie heaven watching over you! Thoughts and prayers!
OMG! Sorry for your loss. I know all too well this pain. RIP, Donut. :'(
So sorry to hear this Sean, she brought such a light to the world. She truely understood how to shine! Hugs to you Captain.
So sorry to hear this, Sean. I know there really aren’t any words that can ease the pain of something like this. When I lost my Zoe after almost 20 years, I felt a part of myself was gone forever. My cats have always been like furry children to me. Zoe was a stray that I always tell everyone chose me when she followed me home. Ella is a rescue that dropped a toy mouse at my feet. I was somehow meant to have them. I believe there was a reason you saw Donut’s picture – so you could give her a beautiful life. Cherish the memories and know you gave her everything a dog could want. She was as lucky to have you as you were to have her!
So sorry for your loss. It is such a hard process to go thru. You will heal and move on, but never forget those furry beauties that pass in and out of our lives. She will be waiting for you at Rainbow Bridge. Beautiful thoughts on your beloved Donut.
So sorry for your loss, and i understand your grief I lost my horse Gator last year it was sudden but he lived long enough to say goodbye.
Oh Sean, I’m so sorry. Those are such small words for the pain of losing a friend. When you meet and you just know, that moment is impossible to forget. It’s one of those times they try to capture in movies about love but really, they are looking in the wrong places, because that kind of connection between us and the four-legged who grace us with their lives is the real deep love.
Thank you for sharing your first meeting with Donut with us and for taking a minute here as well to honor her and let us share in that.
Love and hugs to you and your family from me and mine.
“By the edge of a wood, at the foot of a hill,
is a lush, green meadow where time stands still.
Where the friends of man and woman do run
when their time on earth is over and done…”
– at Rainbow Bridge
My heart is with you. I find myself with tears in my eyes for a beautiful girl I never met, but always looked forward to seeing. I love the heck out of you, Cap. You’re in my thoughts.
Sean,
I am so so sorry for the loss of your sweet girl Donut. I know she has brought you 15 amazing years of unconditional love. The loss of a pet is truly the loss of a family member. You both saved eachother the day you adopted her and I know she will hold on to a very large portion of your heart forever.
Take every moment you need to grieve, and take care of you and your beautiful family.
~Chelsea
<3
Aww..that’s a great story Sean, I always wondered how Donut came into your life…I’m sure she is so happy that you came to her rescue…would love to meet her someday !
oh man I’m so sooty to hear about peanut, that is so sad…I hate to see anyone lose their pet, mine mean so much to me….condolances to you and the family…you were her person and she was yours.xox
Wow !! So sorry for your loss, I’m sure she knew how much you loved her …sorry for originally misunderstanding the story .
I am so sorry they are very much a part of our life. I am facing this decision soon. I have a 17 year old pomeranian that I rescued that is in failing health but as long as he eats and is not in pain I am holding on. What a nice life you shared together. Love you…..
So deeply saddened by your loss and hope you can have in that she was sent to you for a purpose. You’re right you do lose a part of yourself in grief but what replaces that is the memories and love you had for each other.
Stay strong Sean ( it’s what you do best )
Looking forward to part 5.
Much love and prayers. Xxx
So sorry for your loss. She was lucky to be with you for the last 15 years.
It’s beautiful and heart warming. She’s crossed the rainbow bridge and will always remember the love you gave. Much love and blessings for you both!!!
God bless Donut and you. You talked about her when my friend gave you a shamrock kerchief for her. Tears of sadness for you Sean as our pets are family.
So sorry for your loss Sean. I know you must be hurting, you loved her something fierce. *HUG*
Sorry for your loss here is something a friend sent me when my Buddy past.
RAINBOW BRIDGE
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together….
It is always hard to loose a wonderful furry friend. I love your posts, especially the ones with Donut. She could rock gold painted nails like no other! Thank you for sharing your story. You have a masterful touch with creating vivid images. May you carry the good memories always that Donut will forever continue to bring happiness to your soul.
Sean,
I’m sitting here crying. My heart broke for you. You’re writing is so beautiful. The story of how you & Donut found each other is just so touching. Our 4 legged family members have an incredible way of saving us. My 6 yr old pit saved me after my moms passing and loss of my son. God bless Donut, you & your family.
I’m so sorry for the passing of Donut… truly I am. Don’t apologize for taking time to grieve, & there’s no expectancy on you to make the process go any quicker. She will be remembered by so many and she will always be with you. As you said, she left a seed and that’s all it takes. Your writing is beautifully heartfelt, I’m so glad you two had 15 important years together.
Oh, Sean, this hurts my heart! I’m so sorry for your loss. My best friend and I met you a couple of years ago at Wizard World New Orleans and when we asked about her, you pulled out your phone and showed us pics of her at doggy daycare…like a proud papa. It was adorable and you were both so lucky to have found each other. I know it’s not much comfort right now, but it was so fantastic that you were together so long, and I’m sure she’s up there, waiting for you to show up again.
im sorry for your loss Sean, i know how hard loss can be. i lost my grandma the day of my graduation. take solace in the memories created and never forget. Now, lets finish off that boy in the bathroom or atleast give him the boots!
What heartbreaking news to hear. We are always aware of the impact our babies have on our lives but we never fully understand that impact until they are no longer with us. We lost our boy after 16 years two weeks before Christmas and it was absolutely heart shattering. You think you’re prepared but you never really are. What a wonderful story you shared about her name, very beautiful and touching. When I’m feeling down about my boy gone, I always just look at happy photos and think of funny memories and it always brings a smile to my face. Thinking of you at this time, Sean. xo
Although I can’t know what you’re feeling (I am dreading the day my little Sophia leaves me) I am glad you took the time you needed. Especially as I imagine you probably have hundreds of people trying to pull you in twice as many directions.
I am glad you are back though. Your humor and stories and general outlook has been greatly missed. Someday you will again find that unconditional love that IMO completes some of us. Of course it won’t be the same since it seems nothing ever can be the same as that first love but it will still be awesome.
I am excited to read the conclusion to the boy in the bathroom blog. Thank you for sharing yourself and your creativity with me!
I love my GrandDog and I love my Son and Family. My heart breaks. You are the Best Storyteller Ever! Mom
Man… I am so very sorry for the loss of your girl, Donut. Fifteen years is a long time, but there is never enough time when you love someone so much. Isn’t funny how some so freely call their pets, “that dog” or “this cat,” when others clearly receive their pets as friends and regard them as family. These loving animals are what give life a little more adventure and bring comfort to our heart and home. I can truly understand your loss. I have been fortunate to have had a couple of very fun and sassy Rotties in my life that willing gave their trust and attention to me and my family. One was taken unexpectedly while I held him in my arms. The other was unfortunately planned and medically necessary several years later. As weird as it may sound, both made frequent visitations to our home until they knew we would be “ok.” I treasure the many memories and share them often- as I am sure that you will do them same. Miss Donut will always be in your heart, and she will patiently wait for you in the next life. Take care Flanery Family…
Sean I’m truly sorry for your loss! You gave Donut the best and loving home! And she showed you the true meaning of unconditional love! There is nothing that I can say to ease the pain but please know and I mean this from the bottom of my heart that were all here for you and love Ya so much! A great big HOLLAR and God bless!! SHINE
I am so sorry to haear what you are going through right now.I lost my furry man a few years back and I still miss him terribly.He was my animal familair, like what Donut is to you. His name was Connor and named after your character Connor Macmanus.
Connor was a rescue also and the thing about them is you think you are saving them but no….it is you that gets saved. They love us unconditionaly like no human ever can. They never get mad at us and try to hurt us.They give us perfect love.
I pray you find the strength to help heal your wounded heart.I am not the best at words by a long shot. I believe however,we will see them again.May my Connor keep your beautiful Donut occupied till the day we come to pick them up and go on to our forever home with them by our side once again. God Bless you Sean.
Dear Sean, I am so very sorry for your loss of your beloved Best Buddy. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and pictures of you two. It was easy to see that you and Donut had a very special bond and you were lucky to have been part of each others lives. I loved her painted toe nails! She will be missed! A Big Star is shinning bright down on you from doggy heaven keeping an eye on you. Many warm greetings from cold Copenhagen.
Nothing hurts more than losing a furry friend. They aren’t just animals – they are family. The hurt of losing them is equal to a human. My heart goes out to you. They truly capture your heart at first meeting. No one will ever replace them but you truly grow from their love. So much love to you. Take all the minutes you need.
My heart is with you, they go over that rainbow bridge all too soon.
love
I’m so sad to hear this. My heart is breaking for your loss. Nothing can ever replace her in your heart and I think it’s meant to be that way. She stole a piece of your heart and put pack a piece for her soul that will stay with you forever. You’ll see her again one day, and she’ll be waiting with wet, sloppy kisses and lots of donuts for you both.
Sean, I am so sorry for your loss. I completely understand. I met a boy.. a fuzzy bundle of energy who became my best friend for thirteen wonderful years. Copper was his name. Saying goodbye to him was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. But, I was so blessed to have him in my life. Just as you were blessed to have Donut. You gave her a wonderful life. You are a good man Sean saving her. Take care of yourself. x x x
This was such a touching story. I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you guys so much. This is a great way to remember her. Sending lots of love to you.
Take some comfort in the fact that you loved her everyday that she was your pet. And animals know when they’re truly, truly loved and loved animals are the happiest. Sorry for your loss.
My heart is breaking. God bless you. Forever in your heart, forever in ours, thank you for sharing this beautiful soul with us.
Sean, I am so sorry for your loss. This truly brought me to tears. I know what it’s like to lose a loving pet. 🙁
You have my deepest sympathy. I know the pain and I understand the grief. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
I’m so sorry Sean 🙁 my heart hurts for you. Donut was a beautiful fur baby and I’m so glad you rescued each other. The bond between a dog and their human is amazing.
Even though most of us didn’t have the pleasure of meeting Donut in person we were fortunate that you shared her with us.
Prayers sent for you and your family. God bless.
Oh, Sean, I am so sorry for your loss! You, now, have an angel that you know by name…
Awwww darlin, I’m soooooo sorry. She will be forever in your heart and on your mind, therefore she will always be. Your in my thoughts and prayers. I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but like you said, sometimes you just need a minuet. RIP Donut!!
Sorry for your loss. *hugs*
Sean. I am so sorry. Reading this made me tear up. I’m so sorry. Much love ❤️
I’m so touched by your story, thank you for sharing. You were both so lucky to have each other, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
What a beautiful way to share your memories – thank you. I’m so sorry for your loss, losing a loved pet is like losing a member of the family… because they ARE family. Take all the time you need and know we all share in your grief. Hugs to you.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have experienced this pain and grief myself. You are in my thoughts and prayers. A very special blog about a very special girl. {{Hugs}} for you Sean. RIP #Donut ♥
I explained to St. Peter,
I’d rather stay here,
Outside the pearly gate,
I won’t be a nuisance,
I won’t even bark,
I’ll be very patient and wait.
I’ll be here, chewing
on a celestial bone,
No matter how long
you may be.
I’d miss you so much,
if I went in alone,
it wouldn’t be heaven
for me. – unknown
I am so sorry for your loss.. Lots of love xxx
Oh no!! I am truly sorry for your loss.The animals that choose us are more than just pets, they are friends, companions, confidantes, and most definitely family. Thank you for bringing Donut into our lives, she will be missed. *Hugs*
Oh Sean.I cannot begin to Tell you how Sorry I am. She will always be a part of you and your family. She was as blessed to have you,as you were to have her. Forever in our hearts. Much love.
My heart goes out to you. I have lost several best friends during my life. Grief definitely needs to be felt and processed. Sending you much love and virtual ((HUGS))
I am sorry for your loss. I know the heartache of loss and it seems that sometimes it is the gentle souls of our fur loves touch us in a way that most humans cannot. My wish for you is that you can soon consider adopting again. Keep all of those wonderful memories close, they will make you smile.
You may not be together
In the way you used to be;
You’ll always be connected by a
Thread no eye can see.
So when you need to find her
You’ll never be far apart
If you look beyond the horizon
And listen with your heart….
Thinking of you Sean…love always, ~ L xxx
Bless your heart, you ray of sunshine.
Beautiful words for her.
Sorry to hear it.
Awesome story, thank you for sharing your love story with us. I’m sorry for your loss, but love how you put the feelings in your heart, into words. You will both meet again, to never have to part. Hugs.
Sean, I am so so sorry for your loss. You are deep in my heart during this time my friend. She loves you and will be waiting at heavens door for you to join her one day and she will show you the valleys she’s seen and wants to share with you. I do truly believe in this, that animals do go to heaven.
There is nothing like the love of a pet. They make us better humans.
What a beautiful tribute. Lovely words for a lovely dog and her partner.
Sean – I am so sorry to hear of Donut’s passing. Having lost many fur-kids I know it hurts. Just keep the beautiful memories of your time together in your heart, next to the paw prints she left there. Hugs and take care.
A perfect tribute to a pure love.
I’m so deeply sorry for your loss but I know that she’ll be always with you in your heart and in your soul
I think in some way you saved each other lives fifteen years ago when you two choose to adopt each other I know it was for me with my precious Freddie who’s no longer with us, you’ll be always happy thinking of her, remembering all the amazing time you two have shared
Lots of love
Sorry to hear of your loss.
Sean, words can’t express how sorry I am for Donut s passing. She was not only part of your life but ours (fans) too. I bawled my eyes out after reading this. What a wonderful soul she was. Pets pick their owner not vice versa. So, from the bottom of my heart and my “furbabies”we send our condolences to you and yours.
I pray we are reunited with our furry loved ones in the next life. If not I don’t want a next one. God and I have had many discussions on this topic. Our much loved companions have souls. I’ve seen these souls. From the beginning we are being trained and raised by them. They do know better. I am so sorry for your loss and your pain. And take as much time as you need. I’m going on 4 yrs since I lost my horse soul-mate I raised from a wild weanling. But he is still here with me somehow. Forever. God bless you and so much love.
Awww Sean, that was so beautiful. I know you gave her a wonderful and love filled life. And its obvious she did the same for you. I have a huge hole in my life right now, and after reading your beautiful tribute to Donuts, I know that a rescue dog is just the thing I need. Glad to know you’re feeling better. All my love.
Sean, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know a countless times about this pain, about the loss of your furry loved ones and about an empty hole inside yourself as well. 🙁 Donut had the best years spent with you and your family and this is what matters the most. *hugs*
Rest in Peace, beautiful.
Oh Sean, my heart just breaks to hear this news. I never met Donut, but I felt like I knew her in a kindred sort of way from the pictures you’d post and the stories you’d tell. I am so, so sorry for the loss you are dealing with, I know that words aren’t enough to ease that ache, but know that it’s a pain being shared, as best we can all share it with you. Thank you for trusting us and sharing your grief with us so that we can bear it with you.
Sean I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve been through it and it’s never easy but there’s a beautiful poem called The Rainbow Bridge that comes to mind. I like to think that’s where Donut is now. Hugs to you.
Sean, I’m so sorry for your loss. I believe that Donut was the luckiest girl in this universe and she knew it.
Please take care.
So sorry to hear about Donut! It is amazing at how people and animals are placed in our lives when we most need them. Praying that you continue to find peace in all of this. God bless you and your family Sean, and RIP Donut!
I am so, so sorry that you have to go through this. I’ve lost three pets of my own and it is the worst feeling in the world. It’s okay and you shouldn’t apologise for needing time to grieve! We all understand, and we’re all here for you and love you. Seeing your tweets about Donut always brought a smile to my face, and I’m sure to many others. Thinking of you, Sean. Take care <3
I believe animals are the most purest loving souls. She was fortunate to have have you as her human. May she rest in peace.
Take care and thank for sharing a special piece of your life. ~W
I cannot put into words how my heart aches for you right now. I saw the title of your post, and thought how appropriate, as I just left a service saying goodbye to a friend that had a light you could see from space not knowing of the loss you had just experienced. You gave her a beautiful life and you were both better for having each other ♥
You have a true gift for writing. I’d love to read a novel you’ve written someday. It will be on the Best Sellers list. Thank you for sharing that memory and come co write my next song!
Best regards,
~Renee~}
Oh, Sean. I’m so sorry.
:'(
So sorry for the loss of your beloved Donut. Our fur babies bring so much joy and unconditional love into our lives. It’s like losing a part of yourself when they pass. Much love sent to you as you grieve for your sweet girl.
I am truly sorry for your loss. Everyone knows how much you cared and loved Donut. I enjoyed all your stories about her and felt as if I knew her. She will be missed. And there is no need for you to apologize. Take all the time you need and know that your Shine group is always there for you as you are for us. We love and appreciate everything you do for us.
I’m so sorry to hear of sweet Donut’s passing. The void they leave is equal to the love they gave us. You were fortunate to have rescued each other. Hugs and love to you.
Sean, I’m so sorry for your loss. 15 wonderful years! Such a blessing! I know you loved her and she loved you endlessly. This, what you wrote here, is beautiful. Much love!
Losing a best friend is never easy. I’ve had so many companions throughout my life, having to say good bye never gets easier. Donut looked like such a sweet girl, and from some of the pictures I saw of her, you made her really happy.
Aww. Heartbreaker. Pets are family and it’s hard to lose them. Sorry to hear about Donut. elvis (small ‘e’ to avoid confusion, of course) was my love. *Arnold voice* elvis was not a tumor… he was my ferret. I picture Donut and my elvis playing together across Rainbow Bridge.
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. our prayers are with you… God bless you and yours.
Ohh no. I am sorry for your loss. Your dog is cute. Don’t forget to remember her always belong your heart. Hugs:-)
Sean, I am so sorry to read that Donut has passed over the Rainbow bridge, she became part of our lives through the stories you have told, thank you for sharing her with us.
I have tears in my eyes and an ache in my throat now thinking of you xx
So sorry for your loss Sean. (((Hugs))) to you!
So beautifully stated. I’m so sorry for your loss. Our pets are a part of our family, almost like our kids. You fall in love with their unique little souls. I’m glad that you found each other and got to play such an important role in each other’s lives! Hugs and prayers to you!!
Im deeply sorry for your loss of your best girl in the world..we all love her & will miss her.i love you sean..♡♡♡
I’m sorry for your loss. My cat passed away less than two weeks ago, so I guess I know how you feel. Loved her as a sister. Still do. We will never forget them and how much they did for us.
I am so profoundly sorry SP. But due to your amazing kindness and compassion, Donut had the best life imaginable. Loss is so hard, but the love, the love stays with you forever.
Peace from favorite Tulsa ‘Voice Note’ Groupie
AWWW!!! That is soooo sweet. I completely understand your sentiments on that. All the dogs that I have had in my adult life have been rescues (one with a very similar story) and if I could post pics I totally would. You are so lucky to have met her. Bless her sweet spirit! <3 <3
Sean, I’m sorry to hear of you loss. After 13 wonderful years with our Thunder, we had to make the heartbreaking choice to relieve her of her suffering. ( A German Shepherd with hip dysplasia) You never forget them. I’m glad you had the good fortune to have Donut with you for so long.
SEAN – it’s an ancient truism – the more you care, the more it hurts. Even so, between your love for JANE and the time you spent with Donut, those relationship scales have to be tipped in your favor. And it could well be you’ll continue to beat the odds – with another special relationship up ahead on your path… Perhaps this is also a good time to let me have an update on the “J” book project? It would be my pleasure to help you polish or finish that important piece of work. All best, BRIAN
Ah Sean, I’m so so sorry that you’ve lost your girl. God, the life you gave her though!!! And all the the memories she gave you… I’m going to miss that gorgeous girl who had a shitty start in life but ended up with an amazing Dad who showered her with the love she deserved.
RIP D to the O. 🙁
They touch a place so deep in our soul. Not just our hearts but our spirits, our souls. Each and every one becomes a soulmate. Your heart is breaking and your soul just a bit cracked, but time helps. Don’t close off that amazing part of you. Find another one to save you.
To love you.
I’m truly sorry for your pain but look how blessed you’ve been for all those years:)
my dear do not know how are sorry for your loss and I myself have suffered from the same thing, losing a pet that you raised, I understand why my dear friend that I suffer the same, had a cat which was raised since he was born and a pair of cretins beaten to death for that is what you are feeling lonely precious memories to stay there forever hug a loved one are
Everybody need a minute sometimes. Take the time you need. <3
Sean, Of couse you needed a minute. I am so very sorry for your loss. Shine on
I’m so sorry to hear this. I lost my little dude almost 2 years ago, Pepsi, had him 14 years. It is this hardest thing to go through. You take all the time you need.
The most surprising crying session just came out of me. I was thinking how clever your writing was when I realized it was Donut who you shared your meal with on the corner. I smiled and chuckled loudly. I read to the end of the story but just couldn’t comprehend what the date and time meant. My mind just didn’t want to get what you were letting us know in such a kind and gentle way…but when I absorbed the message, when my inner voice said Sean is saying Donut passed away…my head visibly shook to say NO, this just isn’t possible…she is Donut and she belongs with Sean. As the tears started to fall I started judging myself harshly, Linda – you don’t even KNOW these them…how can you cry for a dog you’ve never even pet before or for a man you do not know? But in my mind i instantly saw my grey CLANDUS t-shirt hanging in my closet, then had a vision of how I wear it with pride and love explaining the story of CLANDUS…Sean CLArk, Sean Patrick fLANery and Norman reeDUS and their beloved pets, respectively, Zoe & JC, Donut and Eye In The Dark. I stopped judging and gave myself time to grieve the beautiful animal that I got to know because you shared her with all of us. My heart aches for the pain that her human family goes through adjusting to living without her. My tears fall for the hero that is, was and will always be Donut. Thank you for making my life richer in so many ways Sean. <3
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So sorry for your loss! Losing a family member like this is heartbreaking. Beautifully written story.
RIP Donut. So sorry for your loss Sean. They are than just pets, they are apart of your family. You can take all the time that you need to heal. I will be here waiting.
I lost my Chloe today. . She took my heart with her. .I hope she’s playing with your Donut… Bless
so sorry for your loss .. It’s never easy losing a pet/family member I lost my sadie lady 2/10/15 , my heart is broken and hearing your story made me smile and brought a tear to my eye God bless love your stories
Hey there Sean,
i am so sorry for your loss. i myself have lost a number of pets over the years.
each one was a deeply cherished member of our family. our local vet used to say: “pets are the only family members you truly get to choose. but even then, they choose you.” there are no real words that help the pain or sadness of such a loss. i had the honor of meeting you in April of 2014 at Salt Lake Fanexperience. My mother and i asked you about Donut, and it was so amazing to see your face light up when you talked about her. She was loved so profoundly, that i know is true. you will see her again. til then, remember to look up to the sky and smile, she will always see it.
i am sending you a warm hug, good thoughts, and prayers.
all my love,
Natali
This is so perfectly timed! I had to have my dog put to sleep a little over a week ago and I’m still not to a point at which I can speak on the subject and not shed a few tears. From the moment we met, he was mine and I was his… There’s a lot more I could say about my little guy but I’m at risk of openly sobbing at work. So I’m going to end this by saying I offer my deepest sympathies. Losing our furry friends is a terrible experience but the time we had with them more than makes up for it I think.
I’m so sorry for you loss. They are part of your family and it hits so hard. I just seen this post on Facebook because I just wrote my tribute to my dog. Pugsley has been my best friend since my Mother found him on the road and a little Beanie Baby. And just tonight since he’s been so slow and having a hard time walking, he was accidentally ran over in the drive way. It was horrible and it’s only been 3 hours ago he was on my lap. I’m burying him in the morning. My nephew built him a nice box. Your words are beautiful and I’ll never forget your kindness. I hope your family is well.
—-sincerely—-Krav Maga/Ski Pratrol girl—Sebrina
Sending all my love to you & your family. Long live Donut……. big licks from my furgirls, Milo & Otis xxxx
Hey Sean, I am here if you need me.
I’m so sorry for your loss I don’t even know what I would do if I lost my baby girl – I think it would feel like losing my heart. Much Love
Sean, That sucks .I am so sorry for your loss. A dog’s unconditional love compares to no other. But the gain was worth the pain and from this moment you are forever changed for the better. It is only through hard times that we are molded into sharper, better people and you are continuing on that journey. I feel for you but am happy for you that you have once again achieved another level of understanding and self actualization. Doggy Love to You from a Chick, Amy
Truly sorry to hear of your loss. Such a special girl who was given the life that she truly deserved, a life she was destined to have with someone who saw her need and provided her with all that she desired.
It was a true pleasure to read all about Donut’s life from her rough start right through to the years. We are all truly privileged to have the chance to know her through your postings, photos and videos. We all share in your grief at the loss of this amazing girl.
The heavens have gained a new star, one that will always shine for the family that she chose as her own.
Her legacy will never be forgotten. Deepest condolences
oh my god,hope her happy in the beautiful place.
I’m very sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved dog Donut…dogs (pets) are like family & they touch your heart in more ways than one. Man’s best friend is a dog & there 100% right about that. I hope that your OK & to remember that she is safe & sound in heaven. & your love for her & her love for you will last an eternity! Hugs& love Sean,Stephanie <3
I can so whole-heartedly relate to this, that I sincerely wept while reading it, because I understand. My Gunner (Boston Terrier) is my rock and has saved me through many a dark time in my life since he entered into it almost a decade ago now. I had done animal rescue before him, but there was something about him in particular that just stole my heart and we have been companions and best buds ever since. I have lost other furry friends in my life (who have passed on) but none have quite compared to him. I cannot even imagine what I will do when the day comes for him to pass on. My sincere condolences go out to you…. Just know our beloved never truly leave us.
Aww, hon, I’m sorry for your loss. They definitely take a piece of our hearts with them, especially after so long together. I’m glad you have wonderful memories to help you heal.
I know that my condolences are only paltry things for your tremendous loss, but still, I extend them to you as wholeheartedly as possible. It is a fascinating phenomenon, the way that our pets choose us. I am absolutely certain that Donut saw in your eyes the bravery that is required for a lifetime love, the requisite knowledge that love also one day will likely demand great loss. For love is not only about receiving its many bountiful pleasures, but it is also about the the sacrifices and hardships that you are willing to endure with each other. It is amazing that a dog with many scars inflicted upon her by cruel captors could still give so much to you, and that she was more than willing to receive the life and the light which you gave to her.
Since the mere solace with which I can console you with is simply words, I will share with you a passage from one of my favorite books by Jeanette Winterson called “Orange Is Not The Only Fruit”—- “Close to the heart is a sundial and at the heart an orange tree. This fruit has tripped up athletes while others have healed their wounds. All true quests end in this garden, where the split fruit pours forth blood and the halved fruit is a full bowl for travelers and pilgrims. To eat of the fruit means to leave the garden because the fruit speaks of other things, other longings. So at dusk you say goodbye to the place you love, not knowing if you can ever return, knowing you can never return by the same way as this. It may be, some other day, that you will open a gate by chance, and find yourself again on the other side of the wall.”
So sorry for you loss. Pets are the best. I know my dogs have brought love and joy into my life and saved me many times over. They each have expanded my heart while taking a part with them when they move on. Both you and Donut were lucky to have each other.
I didn’t touch this diary until today because I’m big sensitivity, but…..I wanna say that she really happy with you and every days appreciated to you so she still runs around now also on your side.
Love always
Sean,
I’m so sorry for your loss of your best friend/family Donut..my heart goes out to you. Such a beautiful story & pictures..you blessed each others lives. It was love at first site & you gave her a beautiful life so happy you saved her (two beautiful hearts) I so feel for you & I’m glad your switch clicked back on but you take all the time you need..it’s needed. We all know how much you loved her & she loved you..thanks for sharing your lives with us. Every time I saw a pic it made me smile & want to hug Donut! I believe Dogs are Angels in fur..all love. My girls have been my Angels through all my loss this year..they were for my husband & I for many years before. Thats true..sadness & grief does turn off a part of you brain also takes a piece of your heart. My prayers are with you..wish you peace & comfort.
Lots of love & hugs,
Kellie ♥
I am very sorry for the loss of your beautiful friend. I know grief all too well. On August 20, 2013, my baby boy, Jacob, was born premature. Although he was a fighter, we lost him the next night. The word devastated is not even a strong enough word to describe how crushed and heartbroken I was. Grief can take you to a very dark place. I was there. The darkness was becoming a comfortable place to hide. And then a simple act changed that. My sister was working a Comic Con in Columbus exactly a month after we lost Jacob. There, she ran into you. She asked if you would call me and you did! My sister didn’t tell you about Jacob until after we talked. You just called a fan because another fan asked you to. Something I’m sure you have done numerous times because you are awesome! It was one small act of kindness by you. You didn’t save me from my grief. I’ll grieve for the rest of my life for my angel. You did save me from the darkness. Talking to you was the first time I had truly smiled and laughed since losing him. Thank you so much for saving me! I hope you find some peace and a reason to smile.
I don’t have human children, only my furry children. So when one passes away, so does a part of me too. The love for them can only be understood by people who share their lives with a furry friend/child. I know i will see them again in heaven. So will you.
How often we are rescued by those we believe we can help. Our loved ones make us better than we ever thought we could be, and bring more to our lives than we could ever hope for. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’m so terribly sorry for your loss Sean. Dogs are incredible creatures, truly. I read a quote once that said something like ” until one loves an animal, a part of ones soul lies unawakened.”…You know, they come and go from our lives so quickly, a blip on our time line…but for them..we last an entire lifetime. They will never fully know the full extent of our love for them..no matter how many times you grab their face and tell them in the most absurd of baby talk voices….We feel your heartache and send you love and prayers….<3 <3
No words, just sending a hug your way.
Hugs Sean! Thanks for sharing her with us.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. She meant a lot to all of us but I know that can’t compare to how much she meant to you. Love & prayers for you and your family. I can’t tell you how much your friendship means and I can’t thank you enough for sharing her wonderful soul with all of us. You were so lucky to have each other. I wish all of the grief that I feel could lighten yours but I know it never works like that. Consider this a long hard hug by mail until I get a chance to hug you in person again. Now I need to go out and hug my cat for a bit
Dear Fellow Animal Lover and Rescuer Sean: You’re one of the Good Ones.
What a beautiful lady, I am sure you lit up her world just as much as she did for you. She is and always will be shining on you from above. God bless.
It saddens me to read this, brings back the losses of my own. I still take comfort in the years of comfort I received. Just shine when you can, how you can and if you can.
Sean, I’m so sorry for your loss…a dog is your best friend and it can feel like you’ve lost a piece of yourself. Hopefully soon, your sadness will give way to happy memories…Much love to you
I’m so sorry you lost your wonderful girl! Big hugs! And yes you needed your time to mourn. It’s a necessary and much needed part of the process of losing anyone animal or person you love.
Beautifully written. I am sorry for your loss.
Everybody grieves differently, and no one should let anyone else dictate how they grieve.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing someone you love, human or animal, is very hard and it needs a lot of time to get over it. Take as much time as you need to mourn! Everyone will understand. Donut is waiting for you in heaven and you will see her again one day. Hugs from Germany
My heart is broken for your loss. Your posts of Donut always made me smile. She was so lucky to have been raised by you, and you were blessed to have been chosen by her. I hope the 15 years of beautiful memories make you smile often…until you see her again. Hugs to you!
Sean, what a wonderful story. Beautifully written. So sorry for the loss of your sweet jailbird. Love, Carol
Sending love and light.
So sorry to hear about your loss, Donut was such a sweetheart. She has a piece of you with her always to keep her company, just as you will always have a part of her with you. Hugs.
Talk about a tale that tugs on your heart strings! Reminds me of my sister. Her name was Tosca. She was the most beautiful bull terrier and didn’t have a mean bone in her body. I grew up with her – that’s why I call her my sister. When I was a year old, we adopted her and saved her from a life of abuse and eventual murder. She too was 1 year old so I felt even more connected to her. She was a magnificent member of our family and always made our guests feel right at home. She kept intruders out due to the reputation that bull terriers have. Little did they know that she was in no way a biter! She got old and, after suffering what we believe to be a stroke, she continued to suffer from seizures. The most humane thing to do was to let her go peacefully. She was 16 when we said goodbye and there’s still a hole in my heart, more than 15 years later. 🙁 I cherish every moment and all the photos I have of my dear bully, Tosca. She made me realize that animals are often more humane than humans!
Sean. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Donut. Being involved in a rescue, I understand completely how the soul you see in their eyes can make you see life in a different way. The last two that adopted me were rescues, I wouldn’t change a thing. You saved her, and maybe she saved you as well. They know who makes a difference in their lives. It is obvious you loved her, and I can promise she loved you as much if not more. You will meet her again my friend. Hugs to you and yours.
Love ya, Michelle
I have three rescue kitties, that I love bunches. We had four, Spookey, Tigger, JD, and Fuzzy. Each have their own terrible story. We lost Spookey just before Christmas. Had him for six years. When Spookey came to me, he was hiding in my garage, so tiny, all black with a white spot on his chest. He had a broken jaw.. Still breaks my heart to think about it. It took a minute to get him in the house. He was the best, loving cat in the world. He was with me through, my cancer, and then after I made it through for now, he got sick. He left me. Spookey had kidney disease. I had to put him down. It broke my heart more than I will ever be able to explain. He was slowly dying and in pain. The vet said we could put a feeding tube in, an IV and it doesn’t mean he’ll survive. They said it would be better if I let him go. So I did. I still cry about it… Spookey was there for it all.. I just got a new shitty diagnosis and no Spookey….
Daddy; Thank you for saving my life…..
When they brought me out to meet you I was afraid but then I could feel your kindness. While you were talking to the other man-thing I sensed in you an emptiness. I knew right then that it was to me to help you with guidance, my friendship and my love. When you took me out to walk and gave me that incredibly tasty treat I knew your soul was as mine and I was home. You saved my life, so many people misunderstood me or were frightened of me till you found me. Do not be sad. You gave me so much love and a great home that I had the best life with you.
I will be beside you FOREVER
Nutty
Sir: I do not know you or your Donut, after reading your post it was what I felt. I am happy that you two found each other.
So sorry for your loss. Donut was beautiful. My dog Charlie means the world to me. I’ve lost several dogs over the years and know what it’s like to go through that loss. I can only hope one day we’re all reunited wherever that may be. God bless. – Jenny
I am deeply sorry for your loss. There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness but of power. They are messengers of overwhelming grief and of unspeakable love. Love ya sweetie! xx
A friend once told me, “Salt water solves anything: sweat, the ocean, or tears.” This is true. You will stop crying. You will not forget about her.
Sorry for your loss Sean.
Sean, I write this with tears rolling down my face. I have been so busy with my ill father and work, that I have not been online. I am so deeply sorry for your loss.
Hey brother I posted like you said to your twitter and instagram. You truly are a new found brother. God bless you and all you do for everyone.
Welcome!
…and pleasure meeting you, brother!
-S
I read this post for the first time a few days ago. I wanted to take some time to make sure that my response to it is worded right. I work in a vet’s office. I’ve been there for 7 years now. I’ve seen everything from begging to end (unfortunately there have been a few that have come and gone in that short time). In the vet field we have to become a little numb to this kind of thing. We get so close to the pets that we see all the time and it gets hard to say good-bye. The part that really breaks my heart is when the owner say they will never have another pet. I really hope your not that kind of person. The reason it’s so sad for me is because the people that say that are the ones that give there pets the best lives. They go so far above and beyond and any pet would be lucky to have these people as owners. My neighbors puppy died right before Christmas this last year and the next day I was talking to her. I told her that no matter how hard it is to say goodbye to a pet there is nothing like the joy that they bring into your life. I’ve had a lot of pets over the years, (5 hamsters, 3 guinea pigs, 2 ferrets, and 4 dogs) that I’ve had to say goodbye to ever since I was a kid. I still have a lot of pet and I always will; because I can’t imagine my life without them. Every animal that I have now, and all the ones I’ve lost, are so different from each other and I love them all. I know how hard it is to lose a pet you love so much but don’t let it keep you from sharing that love with another pet.
beautifully profound … thank you
I am not sure if you read these. But I wanted to take a minute and say how sorry I am about Donut.. A bond between a animal and a human is like a parent and a child. When the bond is broken there is a emptiness left… Donut was sent into your life for a reason..But you were also sent into his.. That time you spent together nothing can change. It made you a better person and it gave Donut a better life…
Sean does read these. I don’t know if he gets a chance to read all the comments but I know he does read some of them. It’s incredible what pets can do for people. I have a hard time with this subject just because I work for a vet, so unless it’s dealing with my owm pets I go into “work mode”. There is nothing that I can say anymore that, to me, seems truely sympathetic. So I tend to stick with the parts that do still bother me. We had a patient we had to put down a few months back. His owners were incredible people and their dog was so sweet. But they both said they didn’t want another dog. Thy donated all of his things to my office (toys, beds, etc…) That’s the part that got me. I said it before. It’s the owners that say they don’t want another pet that I wish would get a other. They make the best owners and always give pets that need a home o e that they would never imagine they’d have.
I didn’t get to finish writing this earlier because I had to go to work, but when I read it I felt compelled to respond to it. Please don’t take my seeming apathy for not caring, I do care. But everyone needs to understand that the veterinary field has a high suicide rate for 2 reasons: 1) It is largely a thankless profession. Yes I do some good clients, they are great, wonderful, caring people; I also see a lot of clients that are (trying to avoid four letter words) JERKS. We get yelled at, ignored, blamed, accused, and on one occasion we had to call the police. 2) We deal with death on a daily basis. So my seeming apathy is just for survival. In your other post you talked about losing your cat to cancer and you have my sympathies. I lost ones of my dogs to cancer a few years ago. Her name was Merlot. I owned both of her parents and she was actually born in my bedroom. I still miss her. I just hope that you and everybody else remembers how much love they got from their pets while they had them and not focus on how terribly hard it is to say goodbye. (Side not i am not one of the suicidal people I intend to have a long and healthy life).
I read them all.
Thank you for taking time to read all of these, it means a lot that you do that ❤️❤️❤️
I thought you might. You seem like the kind of man that would. I just tend not to presume things about other people. But it’s good to know.
I have tried a few times to leave a message about your loss. But it never seems to go through. I am hoping this time it does. I havent had a pet in a very long time. I lost my cat to cancer almost 15years ago.ironically the day she died was the day I gave birth to my son. Not a day goes by I dont remember her as a kitten or the fiesty cat that hated my now exhusband ( maybe she was trying to tell me.something). The point I am trying to make is what a profound affect a animal has on you and in your life. You changed donuts life and as I read this I can clearly see how much he changed yours..
I lost my dog after about having him 12yrs. Its not easy as they become part of the family. As days go by it can only get better.
Glad I finally got to meet your “awake” son today!!!!!
-S
Aaaaaaaaand now I’m crying.
(Listening to Joshua Radin’s “Lovely Tonight” as I read this doesn’t help. Don’t do it.)
I stumbled onto your site tonight, exactly one month before the 4-yr anniversary of losing my Molly to cancer. Putting her down was the hardest choice I’ve ever had to make. And it takes time before it gets easier. A long time. Don’t be afraid to sit down and cry it out of your system from time to time. (Real men cry, Sean. I swear.) You’re an incredible actor, your stories are awesome, and you inspire so many… & you love your martial arts, like me. (I’m a Tae Kwon Do chick, myself.) But you’re also a man who learned life lessons from someone on 4 legs, like so many of us. Be grateful for everything she taught you, & cherish this pain – it’s teaching you, too. But I’ll be praying your heart heals quickly. Thank you for writing something so beautiful. More importantly, thank you for giving your heart to a beautiful creature. God bless YOU, Sean. Seriously.
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Oh My dear!!!!! I’m just reading this for the first time. I’m so sorry for your loss. Our pets become some of out closest family members. They listen and love unconditionally. They love the way that humans can not. In moments of great stress, sadness, and even confusion, I’ve had many long talks with my dog. He may not understand be but he looks up at me with those big blue eyes and they say “Mommy don’t worry it’s going to be ok” I’m sooo sorry if my comment brings back up any sad feelings for you. It’s never easy to send our furry friends over the Rainbow Bridge. Again I’m so very sorry for oyur loss. I hope you can find room in your heart and your home again to one day bring a new “Lady” into your life. So Many Snuggles!
I’ve got seven wonderful dogs with seven different personalities and taking care of them is actually taking care of my soul…they “destroy” my house but restore my heart..make me rethink my priorities! And, yes, sometimes they drive me crazy but that’s why I love them so much!
….Aaaaand, yes, I’ve got a boyfriend and a quite interesting life! not a crazy dog girl headed to a lonely death…!! >_<
I just read this post and wanted to say I am so, so sorry for your loss…I am a crazy cat lady, myself but my boy is so much more than just a cat–he’s been through so much with me and has been my constant companion for more than ten years..back around Christmas my husband and I made the first of many trips to our local animal er, then to specialists…we discovered that our beautiful boy is terminally ill, he has multiple problems and treating one adversely affects the others…to look at him today you would never know anything is wrong, so we are focused on quality of life for him and giving him the best life that we can for as long as we can. Our vet has been wonderful and reminded us that every day we get with him is the gift of another day we get to have him in our lives…that’s what I believe our pet family members are–precious gifts…you were a gift to your baby girl as much as she was a gift to you…rescue adoptions are the best, I think, because the rescue is mutual….so I guess in my rambling post here I’m just trying to say I feel for you and I hope you’re comforted by remembering the happiness and love she gave to you. God Bless.
This post just broke my heart — all over again! I am so sad to hear that you lost your BFF — and on my birthday!! I, too, lost my baby — Spencer — on my birthday this year. He was one of our ferrets, but MY ferret, and such a special man! He behaved so much like a cat — he was the only one who would snuggle up & let us give him scratchins. I love him with all my heart and I miss him so unbelievably … I’m sure you feel the same. My heart goes out to you — BIG HUGS!!
I know you already wrote this post a couple of months ago, but I am catching up on some of your older stories. It is funny that we always think that we are the ones saving these precious creatures, when in reality, it’s usually them who choose us. She was a lucky girl to have you by her side, but that goes both ways. ‘Cause you sure hit the jackpot with Donut. Beautiful words, once again, Sean. Take care!
I love how you described your first meeting with Donut. How you felt, the look in her eyes. I felt the same with each of my animal friends. I like how you were honest in thinking that you were saving her 🙂
She is waiting for you…Watching you from above…
We had a dog my whole childhood. 14 years on our side. She died because he ate poisoned stuff.
It was horrible!
She was a true friend, comforts us when we were sad, played with us and always forced us to go outside…
We took her out of a shelter-the look in her eyes… she was the one…
Always in our heart like Donut will be in yours.
Thank you for this love story.
Sending many thoughts. It’s awful saying goodbye.
As a wise man once told me (while I was in sorrow for one of the dogs, I’ve had to send on): “If you are not crying, when you say goodbye to your dog, you should never have had that dog in the first place”
Every dog I’ve been honored to share my life with has left his or her pawprints in my heart. And they never seem to fade away.
Thank you.
I was thinking since then. I would like to say something to you, but it was very difficult to do in my poor English. just, I think, She maybe are in your closest place. god bless.
I appreciate it.
I found this and thought how amazing it is : A Dog’s Last Will and Testament
Before humans die, they write their last will and testament, give their home and all they have to those they leave behind. If, with my paws, I could do the same, this is what I’d ask.
To a poor and lonely stray I’d give my happy home; my bowl and cozy bed, soft pillow and all my toys; the lap, which I loved so much; the hand that stroked my fur; and the sweet voice that spoke my name.
I’d will to the sad, scared shelter dog the place I had in my human’s loving heart, of which there seemed no bounds.
So, when I die, please do not say, “I will never have a pet again, for the loss and pain is more than I can stand”.
Instead, go find an unloved dog, one whose life has held no joy or hope, and give my place to him.
This is the only thing I can give…
The love I left behind.
I know its been a few weeks but I Just wanted to say how sorry I was for your loss. I really enjoyed doing Sean’s Girl Donut, and so did all of her fans. It was a lot of fun, everyone enjoyed talking to her too lol. So glad you shared her with all of us, she was a special girl and will never be forgotten. Hope you don’t think I was too crazy, some thought I was actually you but I would always tell them it wasn’t, ya know they wanted the scoop, Donut saw ALL haha. I too know the pain of losing a beloved pet, companion and a true part of the family, they always will be a part of you, forever….
Just thought she deserved her own account, she was THE DOG!! and Ninja too of course,
D to the O-Nut…. and remember…
Don’t be sad because it’s over, smile and shine because it happened…
Not everyone understands that losing a fur baby is like losing a member of the family. I hope you find joy in a new pet, when you’re ready.
Today I’m going to have to let my 12 year old dog go. Her leg just gave out and my husband is making the arrangements right now. It’s just devastating. But the right thing to do at the right time. And if there actually is a somewhere after this somewhere, I hope she’ll be waiting for me under a willow near a lake full of ducks. Green fields, scrubbery with pheasants to find, a lake to swim and ducks to bring me, and we would both be in our version of Elysium. And if there isn’t a somewhere after this, at least a bit of her will live in my heart as long as I am around.
God bless her little soul. She’ll be waiting for you, over the rainbow, where she will be able to see you from above. I wish I could hug you!!! Much love from Spain!!!
My heart breaks for you love! That’s exactly how I got my Silas. It was the eyes. There was a picture of him scared and hungry in a barn and I saw those eyes man. My heart was done. He’s my soulmate. He’s a spooner, and needs me as much as I need him. He’s one of three for me.
I can’t even imagine. if you ever need some pitty kisses let me know. Silas hands them out freely!
((Hugs)) & love
Take all the time you need. She’s your child.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I bailed my 2 boys out of jail too and can’t imagine life without them. God bless you both. She will also be with you but she’s enjoying dog heaven now. When she knows you’re ready she’ll bring another soul to take care of you and vise versa. Do what you need to for you.
I appreciate the words.
Today I had to say goodbye to my baby, his name was Tristan he was 18yrs old, broke my heart to say goodbye so can understand how you feel, I’m sorry for your loss love n hugs to you xx
God bless
This is one of the blogs I’ve read recently but felt compelled to come back to it for some reason. I think it’s because a pet that had been around since my impressionable teen years recently passed away (he was my cat Sonny & he was 18)…& what an impression he left! They really do leave a paw print on our hearts, don’t they? Anyway, I knew that if I read this again I’d be done for but I don’t care. It’s simply beautiful (I’m still swiping at the tears). Thanks for this, Sean! <3
Oh & RIP once again to Donut! I think you 2 were my favorite of your duos, possibly even moreso than Flandus <3
This has brought tears to my eye, so sorry for your loss of such a special friend. Sending love your way from Tennessee.
<3
Your dog had kind beautiful eyes and clearly a beautiful spirit. She knew she was loved by you until the moment she passed, and she was secure about your love for her. What if she had died in the (non) care of strangers like certain (not all) animal service people, or even at the hands of criminals? Or a natural disaster might have claimed her. It would have been out of your hands, but both of you would have been in total distress and without peace. God gave you a chance to be with her so she could give up her spirit peacefully to the God that had given her that very beautiful spirit, while knowing she was loved by the most important human being in her life.. All these facts are gifts from your dogs Creator that I pray you find comfort in.. Knowing Gods endless powers, He is powerfull enough to give her back to you.. In His time.. Peace..
Thank you for the kind words.
My friend once told me something poignant when I had to put my dog down 3 years ago. He said “Getting a dog is like investing in a small tragedy. You know going into it that some day in the future, you will have one of the worst days of your life.”
To which I thought, “but it is worth every second.”
I am sure you miss Donut as much as I miss Ellie, but I am also sure that they are out there somewhere right now playing together, thinking that the two of us are pretty silly being so mopey on their happy behalves.
Warm Thoughts and Kindest Regards,
Nicole
Thank you.